Don't piss me off

[musicfreak]

I am so sick and tired of ignorant people being so judgemental.   Quick & short, my son is gay. 

I had a feeling back when he was 3 years old that he might be, but then I thought that maybe this might cross every parents mind at one time or another.  And as time went on, there were conversations between people I knew that they would say, "well, I hope that when my child grows up that they're not gay...  I just don't know what I'll do..."   blah.....blah....freakin' blah!.... 

Well I'm here to tell you what you will do (and should do).  LOVE THEM.  Plain and simple.  Don't get me wrong, I think there are people out there that experiment with their sexuality, for either attention or just plain curiosity.  However, this may not be the case for some other gay people, like my son and I'll tell you why.  When your child looks at you with tears in their eyes and says, "Mom, I've tried so hard to be like everyone else and I don't know how and I can't.   And I don't want to face eternal damnation and abomination, what am I gonna do?"  Do you have any idea how bad this broke my heart to see him this way?   Let me tell you there is NOTHING he could ever do that would make me stop loving him.  So don't ask me how I feel about his "choice" of lifestyle.  It is not his choice or preference.

Or maybe I should put it another way.  Let's just pretend the following scenario:

*The whole world is gay, but you're not........ and to be straight is not acceptable.

You know that you are heterosexual, and without a doubt know this in your heart to be for your happiness and not a "choice".  But, you live in a society who says that YOU MUST BE HOMOSEXUAL to be more accepted in an ignorant society.    Tell me, how do you think you might feel?  Probably pretty bad. 

Then there's my all-time favorite that I often hear:,  "Wow, your son is gay?  Aren't you worried about him?  You know, like getting something?....  Listen, yes, I do worry about his safety, but not from disease.  I worry about his safety from hate and ignorance.  Let's face it, AIDS is not a gay disease anymore people.  Anyone can get it from having sex with anyone.

Maybe it's just my protective motherly instinct, but I will not waiver on this and I will fight anyone who goes against my family.

 

[MomOfTwo1978]

Apr. 15, 2008 at 7:53 PM Great post!

[NouseHouse]

Apr. 15, 2008 at 7:54 PM AMEN!! i dont have anything personal to add to your post, but I am so glad that you stand by your son no matter what, that;s the way that it should be! I think that it is so sad and apualing that you would even have to defend or protect him because of the way he was born, I am a firm believer that it is not a choice it is somthing that you are born with.

[strongmom40]

Apr. 15, 2008 at 7:59 PM OMG !!! This girl & I were just discussing her parents not accepting her. They are like, " it is okay for your friends or anyone else to be, just not our daughter." I was like what the hell is that all about???? #1, they probably don't EVEN mean that it is okay for anyone, i.e. they are lying & #2, I told her they were in denial. What ya think about the parents saying that? He partner has IDK, like this energy coming off her, you can feel it. I met her the first time at work when she stopped by to bring my friend roses. It's like this beautiful energy that you can feel just by her smiling at you. I have never experienced such. I asked my friend since her partner is so like this if her family accepted her & sadly she said no. I am so glad they found one another.

[used2Bcool]

Apr. 16, 2008 at 8:59 AM I could not agree with your point of view more!!!!  I agree that it is not a choice.  Yes, maybe some people are gay due to an event in their lives... I know a few.  But I honestly believe that this is who they are.  I love my Dad dearly, but he is as right wing as they come.  One day across the dinner table I asked him how me sleeping with women would affect my relationship with him..... what would that matter?  He couldn't answer me.  Yes you worry about your son's safety..... the same as any mother worries about their children.  People are ignorant!!!!  Love to you & your wonderful son today!!!!

[TwinsMom1299]

Apr. 16, 2008 at 9:38 AM Oh girl! GREAT POST! I agree with you totally & all that has been said! God says..."Judge not, or you will be judged"! People are people... their sexual orientation has not one thing to do with the type of person they are! They can be gay, straight, black, white & freak (lol) and can still be the nicest person in the world you would ever meet... or the cruelest! I get so mad when I hear other people judge someone because they are gay, or because of what they are wearing or the color of their hair! It's absurd! DON'T worry about it! You are a great Mom, you love & stand by him no matter what & forget the IDIOTS that open their mouths!

Love you girl!
Lisa

[donnala58]

Apr. 16, 2008 at 9:55 AM He is your son and you love him, he is your gift from God. It is sad what judgements people have and how they feel the need to express them. Hold on girl.

[depplover]

Jun. 11, 2008 at 5:10 PM

 People used to ask me if my baby was born with a disability what would I do and I tell them I would love them. I totally agree with you. There are too many closed minded people in the world. My daughters best friend from 1st grade to now and she is 22 is gay. We used to let her spend the night with him cause we knew he was safe and we didn't have to worry about him getting her pregnant. My hairdresser is gay and I love him, he is awesome. I always say what they do behind closed doors is their business not yours. I love Ellen too and I think she is funny and I don't hold it against her because she is gay. Elton John, who is an icon is gay and I love his music. I don't look at him as being gay, I look at him as one of the best entertainers around. Freddie Mercury another great entertainer who died to young was gay. So you see we are all in this world together, we should all get along. We need to stop worrying about everyone else and worry about our own backyards. I will step off my soapbox now.

Depplover.