I hear ya. My 17 year old dropped out of school. this year has been pure hell for me yelling and fighting with him just to get him up in the morning to go to school. He drinks, smokes and I know smokes pot. I finally got him to attend GED classes and today was his first day and we fought about him going. I put my foot down and told him either he was going or he had no place to live. He has no job and stays up all night and sleeps all day... wakes up, showers and leaves and most of the time I dont know where he is.  He is driving me crazy. A few years ago... he was a different child. I was divorced from their father after 17 years of marriage and both of my kids personalities changed totally. My almost 12 year old daughter now has emotional problems and is diagnosed with depression and impulsive control problems. I swear she is bipolar sometimes.

Being a mom is the hardest job I could have. Now I have 2 stepkids and they also have problems as their mom basically has abandoned them. Never calls. She is a alcoholic and drug abuser. We got custody of them and their mom has to visit them at a mental health facility but refuses to do so. So basically I am their mom. I love them very much and would not trade them... any of them.

I am happy in my marriage to a wonderful man that treats me better than I knew anyone could. I think it is normal to question ourselves if we could be doing something different or if something is our fault but I know I am a good mom and try my best to do right by my kids. I make mistakes. I learn from them and try harder.

My ex blames me for our son dropping out of school. You just can not drag a almost grown man from bed and drag him to school. lol

McKown Apr. 16, 2008 at 11:23 PM

I was married to my 15yr old and 13 yr olds dad for nearly 13 years. We got divorced a little over three years ago. My oldest one doesn't know his real father, the only one he knew was my ex and when we got divorced he just stopped having anything to do with him. I think that is where alot of his anger comes from, and I feel helpless because I don't have a clue how to help him find his real dad. The internet has been no help there.

I am engaged to a wonderful guy. He treats me better than anything in the world. I really never new love could be this good ya know?? My ex and I always fought. The kids were brought up in alot of fighting and fussing. I know that is one of the reasons the two older ones are the way they are. I just hope that maybe my youngest one and my nephew and daughter can learn that it doesn't have to be like that.  That is what made me decide not to go get my oldest today. He is the only one that causes alot of the arguing in the house. The little ones don't need to hear it all the time.

I feel like such a failure where he is concerned but I guess I just have to let him learn on his own it's not as easy as he thinks it is. He says he wants to finish school and all that but when he goes, he makes grades like a 39 or a 23. That's not gonna get him anywhere.

I know what ya mean about the ex blaming you. Mine did that about my oldest until the 15 year old started acting the same way. And he lives with him. He thinks the answer is just to send them off somewhere. I think that will make it worse depending on where they go. He has two other children with his new wife and does all kinds of stuff with them and leave our two out most of the time. It's crazy.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. It makes me feel somewhat better knowing that there is others going through the same thing ya know??

Pigletsmommy129 Apr. 16, 2008 at 11:50 PM