From the mind of Liz

ramblings of a burnt out mom

Hi ladies!

Well, I NEVER thought that Jamie or I would be entertaining the thought of going SF but we are in a tough spot and dont know what else to do at the moment. Here is our story, ill make it as brief as I can but its long :)

Jamie has been in for going on 12 years, he is an E6 and just recently re~uped for the last time, he is indefinate now and is in for the looooong haul. His/Our plan was for him to apply to the Armys nursing program for him to be able to go to nursing school for 2 years, get his commission and become an officer. He currently works at Walter Reed and EVERYONE he works with thought it was just a brilliant idea and there was just NO reason it wouldnt work out for us. Even the major and Colonel were just sure he would make a wonderful nurse and officer, everyone he asked wrote raving recommendation letters for his packet. He had gone back to school as was taking online classes, 2 at a time in the evenings and that was taking away alot of our family time as he doesnt even get home most nights until after 6. ANYWAYS, long story short, he turned in his packet and was supposed to find out sometme in June if he was in or out but on Monday of this week he found out he is coming down on orders to go back to Iraq!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He doesnt have official paper orders in his hand yet but he was on a list of about 20 other soldiers at the hospital that will be getting orders. Jamies are for him to be on another MiTT team, he would leave in July first to San Antonion for some classes for a week or two and then to Kansas for 3 months to train and then off to Iraq...so about 15 plus months total. I am pregnant and due right before he is supposed to ship out so I dont know if he will miss this baby too (like he did our second because of another iraq deployment or not).

PART TWO and the most important part for you special forces wives to help me on!!!!!!!!!!!

Jamie keeps getting these emails for the SF guys trying to get him to go green beret, and ive always just told Jamie to delete them because no way we were doing that crap! BUT, with our current situation im wondering if he should try to do it?? The way the last email sounded, they know a bunch of guys are going to start coming down on orders soon and that they would be better off if they went SF and get deployed with them when the time came....that its better for families because you get better pay, stabilization, shorter deployments ect. ect.

They are having an informational meeting next week and we are thinking of going to it and finding out what we have to do to get the ball rolling. 

BIG QUESTION ~ Would they cancel Jamies orders to Iraq if he decided to go SF and they accepted him? We are hoping to keep him in the county so he can at least be with me when I give birth, this is our last baby and I dont want him to miss it and I have no close friends, no family, no support system here at all....plus, if it would be better for our family in the long run, why the hell not do it?

ADVICE PLEASE FROM SPECIAL FORCES WIVES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks soooo much!

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Mama2...
Apr. 17, 2008 at 9:23 AM He would still go to Iraq just not at the same time as the others, plus it would be shorter. SF is a great thing to do, and I really consel y'all do that. My dh is in line to do Airborne then SF, so I may be a wee bit biased! LOL

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Watch...
Apr. 17, 2008 at 9:25 AM No advice to offer, but commenting and voting popular for ya hun.  Good luck figuring it all out.

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jlizgar
Apr. 17, 2008 at 10:39 AM

Anybody...Anybody else???

Im very desperate for more info on this from a special forces wife who would know first hand!

PLEASE help me out here ladies!

and thanks for the popular vote watchgirl29! and thanks for your comment and info mam2cailleigh!

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lucy1970
Apr. 17, 2008 at 10:51 AM No advice either...hubbys Navy so Im clueless on Army stuff. But I voted popular to help ya out. Did you search for SF groups on here?

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jlizgar
Apr. 17, 2008 at 11:14 AM

I did search for SF groups but there arent very many that are SF specific, and the few that are are not very active, some havent had much activity for months so no help there. I have posted this in 2 Army groups and got a small amount of info and feedback....but I was hoping for more!

Maybe the longer this is here, the more SF wives that may come across it. Thanks for the popular vote!

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gacgb...
Apr. 17, 2008 at 11:16 AM Sorry no experinece here, but here is a vote, I hope you get some answers... it would be so nice if your hubby could be home with you for the new baby!  I am sorry you have to face the possiblity of that not happening, but I hope this idea changes it!

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gogetem
Apr. 17, 2008 at 12:02 PM

I'm not sure... I'm a Navy wife..

But, when I have questions like this, I always go to http://answers.yahoo.com/ and post my question under "military".  I get a lot of responses.

Hope this helps.

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jlizgar
Apr. 17, 2008 at 1:00 PM

Gogetem~

OMG, thanks for your suggestion to try Yahoo! Answers. I submitted my question and already have a bunch of very helpful answers....I have never used Yahoo! Anwers but so far its great :)

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Imma...
Apr. 17, 2008 at 2:44 PM I too have no input as my husband was only in the AF many years ago.  I'm so glad you were able to get some answers!  Please tell your husband THANK YOU for his service!!  I know he is GREATLY appreciated there at Walter Reed.  I know we send LOTS of packages there from the US Troop Care Package...Tri-Cities WA....

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snowf...
Apr. 17, 2008 at 2:50 PM I don't know a thing about special forces or if it would delay his orders.  I just wanted to comment and vote ya popular!

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