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[momtoryry]

Apparently my job isn't as important as my husband's job. Our 4 year old son is on April vacation this week. I just started full time last week. I was given plenty of notice of when my hours would start so that hubby and I could find a daycare or someplace for our son to go so we could both work this week. Yesterday he informs me that I need to go into work at 1pm instead of 1130am so he could go to work and only have to be home for a few hours today. I said fine, as long as it's okay with my boss, I'll do that. Well, about 1245 he calls me and says he's going to be a few minutes late because one of the other guys isn't back from his delivery yet. He should be back at 1 (which is when I'm supposed to be at work) and I'll be a few minutes late for work. The girls knew I was going to be late because they already called and asked me if I could pick up their lunch on my way in. Well, 10 minutes past 1pm, hubby calls again and says that he's going to be even later than we originally thought because the other guy isn't back yet and he has to go on a test drive with some customers who just walked in the door.

Don't get me wrong, I understand that if hubby isn't there, he doesn't sell cars and doesn't make us money. But why should I have to suffer because he didn't follow through with his end of the deal in finding a place for our 4 year old this week? Even last week when Ryan was so horribly sick, I'm the one who called into work 3 days that week. He didn't even so much as come home early. He called a few times every day to check on him, but that's it for the most part.

Hubby and I are going to have a SERIOUS talk tonight after Ryan goes to bed. I am so tired of this. I honestly feel that he thinks my job is a joke and I can just keep calling in and they won't eventually fire me because of it. Here it is 1:30 and I have no idea when hubby will be home or if I should call into work or not. It's so darn frustrating and I am steaming mad right now.

[bloggingmom67]

Apr. 17, 2008 at 6:23 PM

I'm so sorry. Sounds very difficult.

Men do tend to think their job is more important, regardless of how much they make or you make or what each of you does. It's just like they somehow assume that women will take care of child care issues.

As I often say to my husband, if you want me to be a stay at home mom, than get a job where you make enough so I can.

Hope things approve. :)

[MSugarKane]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 8:18 AM Your in a difficult spot. Sorry, it doesn't seem fair that he doesn't share the responsibility of child care with you.

[LilStar9905]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 9:50 AM I am sorry you  are dealing with such a difficult issue. I hope it gets better for you!!