It doesn't involve my children

[casjoh]

I was going to post this to my groups, the sad thing is I don't have a clue which group this might be coming from.

Yes, I have spoken up about my own experience and yes, I have replied to certain messages where young, frightened girls have asked for advice about adoption.  But I haven't attacked anyone, I have only spoken the truth from my own experience and from what I know is the similiar experiences of others.

I know, and expect that I will anger those on the other side of adoption who want everyone to  believe it is a wonderful experience that it's in the best interest of the child.  But I never expected anyone would waste the time to seek me out on myspace.  And I certainly never imagined somebody would be so uncaring and evil as to make offensive remarks about the son I lost to adoption.

If you want to go after me and sling your ugly words and your anger, go ahead.  But leave my children out of it.  The very reason I keep limited information about this debate on myspace is because all three of my boys are there and have access at any time to my page.  Protecting them is the most important thing in my life, which I would think any adult, especially those who so desperately want a child of their own, would understand.

From the comments left on myspace, I have no doubt it was an adoptive mother , or one hoping to adopt, who visited and left her ugly remarks.  How could you?  You so desperately want to adopt a child and yet you turn around and leave your hatred against a child who was adopted.  Who is innocent in this and never deserves to read the anger you placed on my page for him to see.  My only hope is I caught the comment and deleted it before he saw it.

If you want to debate with me.  If you want to be angry with me . . . please leave it here.  And over all else, leave my children out of it!!!!

[Southernroots]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 1:08 AM

"If you want to debate with me.  If you want to be angry with me . . . please leave it here.  And over all else, leave my children out of it!!!!"

How sick she must be!  If you need any help, just let me at her and I will straighten her out! I'm sorry that this happened to you - there are many folks in and out of the adoption world who just can't handle the truth about adoption.

[casjoh]

Apr. 19, 2008 at 5:38 PM

Thanks for the offer of help!!!!  Too bad the posters bravery did not extend to providing a way for me to respond to her ugly comment since she does not allow comments or messages on her page from anyone on the outside.

If she was hoping to scare me away, she failed.  She only made me aware that to some people it's okay to attack the innocent children.  I have taken a cue from her though and blocked my page in the same way so no more of these comments can come through.

You are so right when you say many don't want to hear the truth.  I feel more sorrow than anger towards them - or atleast on my rational days I do - because they can't see through their fear to understand that they have suffered from the lies as well.

(Original Poster)