Missing birthday party

[Jayn0000]

So, I'm in a MOMS club in the town i live in, its been around for like probabily close to 7 years... well i have only been in it for about 2 and a half years.. well I'm a young mom 22 mom of 3, while most of the other moms are mid 30's and only have 1 maybe 2 kids with 2-3 years between each... they have formed a kinda ... clique...

well when i joined there was one othe mom close to my age, but she's moved away, there is one more mom with chilren spaced rather close together, very similar to me.. so those were really only the 2 moms who i really talked to, and who accepted me... the other mom shes got quite a few more kids than me, so shes got a busy schedule... meh i just deal my kid needs to get out and play being stuck at home all day just isnt good

well i invited everyone to her 3rd birthday party... told everyone it was a BBQ we were providing, hamburgers and hotdogs for everyone, we had a small pool for the kids (6ft x 15in)

1, maybe 2 days later, another mom said she was having her sons b day party on the same day, but because shes in the clique, her party won out over mine

it just makes me so sad, i mean shes left out of the play group as it is cause shes just.. in that middle age, there aren't any girls HER age, and the older ones don't like her case shes a "baby", and she is to big/rough to play with the real babies...

the few who are her age don't often make it... shes to young for preschool and i want to home school still so she doesn't have any friends, i mean i was tempted to just go to the park and invite random people with kids her age so she had some kids to play with, i mean thats practically all i did by inviting the moms group she doesn't know any of the kids any better than the other kids she plays with at the park. I just wanted her to have fun, i mean i tried to make the stupid thing as tempting as possible, i know i live a little in the boonies, i wanted to at least let people know that everything would be handled, we have hotdogs & hamburgers to feed a freaking army.. we had a little pool for the kids so they had something fun to do when its so hot...

I'm just depressed that people would do things like that...... and now I'm crying... i'm going to take a nap....

[catholicmamamia]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 9:40 PM I know this isn't very christian-like of me, but what a mean thing for her to do! IDK..maybe she didn't realize it was on the same day? Gosh, that is pretty sucky, though..I do not blame you for being upset.

Try to let it go, though..because nothing is worse distracting you from loving life with your kids!
Do not let that woman win..again..kwim?

Everything you described happening, I've been through most of that at one point or another. Maybe this is not the right mom's group for you? Either that, or hang on..waiting for someone cool to come along. I wish you lived closer, because we would totally hang w/ you and your LOs!!

Me w/ my anti-mainstream self cannot STAND witchy cliques!