What Business is it of YOURS?

[momsunited]

At 34 years old, it is actually funny to me, the looks I get, walking around with a stroller with 2 babies 13 months apart, with my tween at my side. The questions people ask...are you done? Am I done what? Having babies, they reply. I love the look I get when I humbly reply, "Well, my hubby jokes saying he wanted six kiddos, but we would settle for one more!". I smile my sweet southern smile, and take in their look of utter astonishment.

"What business is it of YOURS?", is my question.

I am reminded of a late night many moons ago, when I was pregnant with my first. I had a craving for an ice cream sundae (cliche I know).

I was standing in line, and there were two older ladies in front of me. They looked at me with disgust, eyed me head to tow, and then one said to the other, "They really should do more about teaching teens about birth control"....and dismissed me, with disgust.

The memory still, to this days sticks with me. I was a married woman in my early twenties, and granted I looked a bit younger than my age, yet I was judged as a statistic, yet another teen pregnancy...which I was NOT.....

My question is...what business is it of anyone how many children my husband and I choose to bring into this world? They are OUR children, OUR choice. OUR BLESSINGS...

Yes, we would LOVE to have one more. Is that such a bad thing? I am a great mom, my hubby a fantastic dad, we have a strong marriage and a STRONG LOVING FAMILY. Why are we looked upon as we have a dreaded disease, as if being "tied down" with family is the worst thing that could possibly happen?

As a society have we become so selfish, that there has to be something wrong with loving our kids, putting family first and choosing to have a larger family over material things, vacations and bar hopping?

Any opinions?

[goingbonkers07]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 3:03 PM My mom had 9 kids. People always asked her the same thing. "Are you going to have more?" She always said "We want 12." It shut them up.

[oldermomof5]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 3:21 PM Tell me about it. When we had our 4th Our DD was 14 she looked 16 but that's beside the point. She was sitting with him at the Mall while I was in a store. As I come out I see her upset and two older women sitting next to her. Talking to each other about  how it's sad to see teenage mothers. I soot over there look at them and tell them how dare they assume he is hers. She's the sister. Then they decide to tell me  (assuming again)  As my younger nephew (10 years younger) is standing next to me. That I'm setting a bad example for my daughter by having a baby with my second husband. I busted out laughing. What on earth are you talking about? How could you come up with that. Well he's younger so he must be new husband. We all three are rolling at this point. I tell them that they are gossiping  righteous old women. He's my nephew and I'm married to the same man I was when I had her. And yes before you ask we are Catholic. That was the worst one there were a few others with the last child. some even thought he was our oldest sons. sorry didn't mean to take off on this but that always strikes a cord with me. You're right mind your own business.

[mamaofwildboys]

Apr. 18, 2008 at 3:21 PM

I can't tell you how many comments I get when I tell them my boys ages.  14 and 4.  I always get what the hell were you thinking.   Well we are thinking about having another...so let the comments begin..lol