As living creatures we evolve...since the beginning of time genes mutate to help us ADAPT AND EXCELL AS A SPECIES. Each generation is litterally better than the last, physically, on the most primitive level, all the way up to emotionally, and mentally. So in theory we are better adjusted and wiser than our parents, and our children will be better off than we are, and so on. This will and does happen  naturally to an extent, yes...But as parents, we have the power to really prepare our kids and make them as whole as possible to begin their adult lives. 

It is our job as parents to take a look at our own childhoods and really evaluate what was positive and/or negative about it, what was lacking,etc. Think about the way your parents were, what they did, what they said, day to day and how that influenced you directly.How that affected who you are today. Take that assesment and apply it to your children...fill in the gaps where there was something lacking, duplicate the good things. In other words learn from YOUR life. So many people go through life and never stop to think about their purpose.....what is the purpose of a parent really? (besides the basics: unconditional love, food, water, shelter) It is to mold your children into intelligent, confident, kind, strong well adjusted people, emotionally, physically and mentally.

With me personally...i had wonderful parents, who had the absolute BEST intentions. They did an amazing job, they loved me and my brother more than anything. They were very protective and strict, at the time I thought they were "ruining my life"....now I am thankful. Well intended as they were... they did lack in a few areas , for example my mother had a major lack of self confidence, I see that has manifested in me as well...I now am on a mission to prevent that in my kids. Also we moved a lot (from the time i was 5yrs old to12 yrs old)   We lived in 3 different states.... New schools new friends, this made me a very shy and sort of withdrawn, so i now am more aware of the importance of stability and routine for my kids.

So think about your strengths and weakneses as an individual..the pattern will either repeat in your kids or you can help your kids "evolve" and overcome.

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