Complicated Situation

[lovenkids]

My daughter is 5 years old and she whines way too much. I have tried method after method. Ive tried ignoring her,sending her to time out, sending her to bed,counting to 5 til she stops,but she does does it. I dont know what to do..someone please tell me. I cant take it!

[Tricia5]

Apr. 25, 2008 at 9:17 PM Read Dare to Discipline by Dr. James Dobson

[Babyshoe]

Apr. 25, 2008 at 9:23 PM

Love and Logic is another great book.

I work with 5 year olds and this is a very common complaint from their parents. Try to find some sort of positive reinforcement so that the attention she is getting is positive. Kids seek any type of attention, so when using time out for negative behaviors, try not to speak or look at her too much. Reserve your attention for praise. Praise every good behavios with words, hugs, high fives, etc. Also, set up an incentives chart. Finally, stick to it! It will take time to work, but don't give up or change you incentives. Feel free to contact me with any other questions, this is my speciality! Good luck!

[WAHU_Mom]

Apr. 25, 2008 at 9:24 PM

Hmmm - well it sounds like she knows you are going to give her attention for behaving that way so she will continue to do so as long as you react.  So difficult to know without being there but my son (four) whines when he is tired so he gets quiet time and either sleeps right away or stays in his bed for a while resting....so I know he is tired.

But there was a time about a year ago he started whining after spending the weekend with another child that did - grrrrr - anyway, I tried everthing for a few weeks I could think of time outs, begging, treats/rewards, anything - finally my mom said whine back....for the entire day I tried that - he HATED IT - he wanted me to talk in my normal  voice but I didn't give in until the next morning after we agreed that we would start over and we have been fine ever since.

Good luck!