I know he doesn't understand exactly this whole breastfeeding bond. I know that he's uncomfortable with me breastfeeding this long anyway, but still. All I want is acknowledgement of my feelings and then something like, "It's okay." Is that too much to ask?
This is what I wrote in my email:
You know I just realized that I'm going to have to start weaning Christian a little after you come home. I don't think we're ready. :-( I'm already sad about it. I love breastfeeding him and I know he loves to breastfeed. I'm really glad I've already gotten to 16 months and I know that's a lot longer than some, but it still makes me feel sad. I hope it's an easy transition for him...and for me. :-(
This is what he responded with:
well, I know you can do it, and as long as you don't make it a big deal, it won't be one.
The bolded part is what got me mad. I wrote him back and said I hated when he made comments like that. I feel like he thinks that I'm going to blow this whole thing out of proportion.
I know I have to wean. I know this. It doesn't mean I have to like it. I feel like he thinks that I shouldn't be sad for having to wean. I think he thinks that weaning him is just like any other transition. It's just something you have to do.
Can't I feel sad and have him say it's alright to feel sad? That's all I want! That's why I vent to him. Not for a solution per se, but for him to say, I understand you feel [insert emotion], but it'll be alright. It's okay to feel [insert emotion].
You know what I mean? Am I overreacting?
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