I'm screwed. My Mom is dealing with her house being flooded and major repairs being done. She's miserable and depressed. My DH told me today that he thinks he's experiencing depression. I can see why. He hates his job and things with the kids have been rough. Harris has been having an exceptionally hard time and the other kids are kicking up with serious spring fever. My best friend told me today that he went to the ER the other night with a panic attack and he's going to see a psychiatrist next week. I worry about him, because I know he's had suicidal thoughts in the past when his 8 year marriage ended. And now, he's coming out of the break-up of a 3 year relationship. He mentioned that he was headed out to buy booze and sleep-inducing cold meds when he decided to go to the ER. He stressed that he wasn't thinking about suicide at the time, but I don't entirely believe him.

 The thing is, I'm depressed and stressed and freaking out and everyone needs me to the strong one. In the words of Liz Lemon, "Blergh!".

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May. 2, 2008 at 4:24 PM

Ugh.  I feel ya.  I always feel like I'm supposed to be the strong one, despite being ill, too.  My dad is disabled (had a heart attack in 2006 and now suffers from severe anxiety, depression and now has bad hip pain).  My husband is currently disabled after having back surgery.  I am in pain all the time.  Back pain, hip pain, migraines and I recently sprained a muscle in the bottom of my foot but I don't get a break.  My husband and dad rarely leave the house so I do all the shopping and hevy lifting (even though I'm hurting too).

I have ADD, severe depression, severe anxiety and insomnia (which is probably related to one or the other issues).  I get 4-5 hours of sleep a night and I'm exhausted all the time and trying to deal with everyone, worry about everything.

It gets overwhelming at times.  I don't have any advice, though.  Just some hugs and good thoughts and hoping you find a way through it all.  Try to get your hubby in for some help.  My husband got really depressed a couple years ago (although he wouldn't admit it) and it almost ended our marriage.  I've been dealing with it for nearly 25 years (since I was a small child) so I've learned to cope.  For him it was a new thing and he was not coping well and with my depression...it just exploded and he left for 6 weeks.

Good luck.  I'll be thinking about you.  :) 

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May. 4, 2008 at 12:51 PM

these peolpe wouldn't come to you if they didn't see you as strong....ya know? thinking about you...when it rains it pours huh? if you ever need to vent i'll gladly listen!!!



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