how i am feeling mild cursing

[hotmama0820]

well a couple weeks ago my husband ( we were together for 5 years and married since jan) told me that he doesnt love me anymore, that he didnt want to be with me and that he was in love with someone else since then his story has changed many times, that he does me, that it is just sex with this other woman, that he thinks we rushed into our relationship,  so i tried so hard to deal with the fact that he was moving on ( we were still living together for the sake of our daughter) and i tried telling my self i can take knowing he is having sex with someone else and doing things with her that he used to do with me but on wed i asked him if he was coming home on thrus ( he works overnight with her ) and he said so it comes to the morning and he is not home, he went over her house i am so hurt because i dont understand why he wasnt just honest with me so then the day goes on i am at work just upset and i am thinking that wasgoing to go back our apt in the afternoon to spend some time with our daughter he ended up staying out allll day with his phone off that night when i got home i packed up his shit and told him when he finally came on on friday that he had to leave he was like can you give me some time to look for an apartment i said ok i didnt want to see my daughters father on the street mind you i asked him why not just live with his new gf he said no that is too big of astep in their reletionship so then we are going about day and about 530 he tells me his leaving that he is not in his right mind to take care of a baby right now !!! so that night i called him and told me he needed to get the f out so today he came here with his new gf!!!!! i couldnt believe that he had the nerve to bring her here to our apt.  he said he is coming back later to spend some time with his daughter but i just dont know how to get over him he was my world for 5 years and now i am just so lost and confused and feeling sorry for myself i am so sick of  crying but i just dont know what to too please i could really some uplifting words thank you taking the time to read

[amywills08]

May. 3, 2008 at 2:29 PM don't believe that people just fall out of love, and it doesn't make sense to me that he can feel this way for absoultely no reason. You guys just barely had a baby, which can put a great deal of strain on relationship. The baby has probably taken alot of time away from the two of you, because where as he was recieving all of your attention before, he probably doesn't get as much with the demands of the baby. Whens the last time you guys had some alone time,.. went out on a date, or did something just for the two to you? Some men are like babies themselves when it comes to this type of thing...even though they may want a child, I don't think they fully understand how demanding the baby can be until it's here and taking all of our attention. Sometimes that can leave them feeling a little abandoned, and distanced from us, and although we don't do it intentionally, the nurting side of us can take over.
I would try to talk him into going to counseling...I am almost certain that he loves you...he may just feel rejected...it's normal.
Girl don't you give up! You get that man into counseling , don't let him quit...if he agrees that is a good indication that he still cares...and then you have to focus on creating a balance...
Now you have to try and stop being so emotional too..stop all that crying when you talk to him, and I would give him a few days. This is still fresh still today...it's not the end of the world honey...he's just a little confused.

[lisadallasr]

May. 3, 2008 at 2:30 PM Aww sweetie, im so sorry your going through this.  I know its easier said than done but you need to get strong for you and your little girl.  He is not worth it, he sounds like he is not ready to be a man, he is still acting like a little boy and you and your daughter deserve so much more.

[londoncouple1]

May. 3, 2008 at 2:38 PM I am so sorry to hear that you are having to go through this. As a "child of divorce" myself I just want to say that staying together or letting him act a fool for the sake of your daughter is a bad idea. You are obviously too good for him and though I know it is hard to say no to him, as I'm sure you are still in love with him despite everything, just think of the example that you will be setting for your daughter by letting him dictate the way things are going to happen and letting him walk all over you. It's like you are telling your daughter it's okay for a man to treat you this way. It's not okay and neither you nor your daughter deserve this. He made his bed and now he has to lie in it, it's not your job to make things easy for him. You and your little girl will be in my prayers.

[hotmama0820]

May. 3, 2008 at 7:45 PM thank you so much for everyones support !!

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