I think being a stepparent is one of the hardest things in the world!! You love the kids uncondionally but dont get the credit for it most of the time!! This time of year is the hardest on me. "mother's Day" I used to hate it. Sure hubby would always buy me something from the kids and hav ethem sign a card. But I never got any of the handmade stuff they make in school. That always goes to the "real" mom. I know it may sound pety to complain about such a little things but it so hard when I do all the things that she SHOULD be doing in their lives! I am the one that taught them to tie their shoes, I taught them how to dress (& match ) their clothes, how to brush their teeth and shower properly, I taught my daughter how to put her hair in a ponytail. I do all the running for them.. drop them off where they need to be, religion class, Cub scouts, birthday parties. I buy all the presents for holidays and birthdays, I help with homework, feed them everyday.. healthy food too!! GRRRR! Sometimes I just want to scream! I know I am the better mom.. the BM just wants to be their friend.. she is constantly dropping them off with family and friends to watch them, buying them junk they don't need ( but can she pay us what she owes?? no she;s broke) Constantly moving around.. in and out of her parents house and in with whatever "boy toy" she has at the moment. Bringing a new friend around to meet the kids right away after she broke up with the old one!! I do my best to stay strong and I know deep down that they are much better off with me in their lives and that one day they will realize all I do for them and will come to see what a good mom I am for them!! I JUST WANT THAT DAY TO BE NOW!! I could go on and on about all the wrong choices BM has made... I will never badmouth her to the kids or tell them those things.. I bit my tongue HARD everytime!! I just want to be recognized for all I do!! I just want the best for the kids because I treat them like my own.. I care for them so much that it hurts to see them being passed off by her and to know that she is just fake to them.. she only has to act like a mom to them every other weekend after that its all her.. where I am MOM full time... day or night even when they are gone. I still think about them and plan things for them!!! My kids are my world!! So what if I didn't give birth to them... any girl can have a kid.. it takes a REAL WOMAN to raise them!! Thanks to any and all who read this.. I just needed to badly vent!!!!
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