Why is everything MY FAULT??

[qutykat]

My husband calls me up at work and asks me whether I've seen our tax records from 2007.  You mean the same records that I handed to you a couple of weeks ago while we were cleaning up the office and TOLD you to file?  No, I have no idea where they are.  When I handed them to him that day, he said that he was happy I found them because he's gonna need them in a couple of weeks to give to his lawyer.  Well, a couple of weeks have flown by, and it happens to be today.  So he's at home frustrated and stressed out because he had to take off work so that he could look for them.  I'm not a lot of help because I'm at work and the only thing I could do was tell him the different places he could look.  He makes a comment that he's going to put up a wall to his office so that nobody can get in there and messes things up and he'll be able to find everything he needs.  Believe me, even if his office was enclosed, paperwork would be scattered about and records would be lost and nothing would get filed.  But I'm sure if that were to happen, he'd still find a way to blame me for something lost. 

I'm pissed off, because he's getting mad at me for not knowing where HE stashed the paperwork and is blaming me for moving things around when I didn't and if he needed them today, then WHY, for god's sake, did he not look for them last night??  I can just imagine what the house will look like when I get home today, with things strown about and thrown around everywhere.  I'm sure he'll feel bad for getting mad at me for something that wasn't even my fault, and if he doesn't, I'll make sure that he does. 

I'm just so sick of it.  It seems like everyday, he finds something to blame me for. If something gets broken, it's my fault.  If one of the kids spill something and i don't clean it up fast enough and it leaves a stain, it's my fault even though I'm doing a million things around the house when it happened.  If bills don't get paid on time, it's my fault for filing the statements too soon.  I'm not one to place blame, but I told him that one of these days, I'm going to write down everything that he does wrong, everything that he says he'll do and and ends up not doing, and when he blames me for something, I'm gonna pull out the list and slam him with it one by one.  ARGH!!  I'm soo mad!!

 Does anybody's husband do this too??

 

[gustinebrat]

May. 6, 2008 at 5:20 PM we all have had men like that in our lives at one time or another

[vsrillo]

May. 6, 2008 at 5:20 PM YES! I tell him exactly where I last saw something he is looking for, he will pick it up to look under it and still not see it. He cannot remember anything, if the children move it he takes no responsibility. It was the girls. What is he doing when they are rearranging the furniture?  I am not perfect, but I can recall where I leave things and move then too,

[Cathy12406]

May. 6, 2008 at 5:22 PM      Join the club. I get blamed for everything. The only way I can solve this problem is to do what you suggested. If my son spills something and I don't clean it up he gets mad at me and I tell him "you have to arms two leges and two hands and they are not broke so pick your ass up and help me out with him he is YOUR son too, I am not a maid" You go get him. put him in his place.

[mommerbean]

May. 6, 2008 at 5:27 PM

My husband does the same thing, and yesterday he put the cheese up with the coffee mugs? The kitchen floor is covered in coffee splashes every morning and he always said, "I didn't do that." Hello? I don't drink coffee yah goof! The problem is they are men. 

Really, they must have a cat brain in their skulls...
They are oblivious, "it's all about me, food, and sex." 

 My hubby told me he would handle funding the IRA's the week before taxes were due...the 15th he hands me the envelope he was dragging around for a week doing nothing with and says, "you better get over to Rings and fund my IRA today!" 

 So I did...I funded his with $4,000. and then I opened and funded myself one with $6,000 max allowed. I told him it was the price he must pay for me to take care of him and clean up his trail of messes and mistakes. 

One must deal with each species on it's own level. When my cat bites the hand that cares and feeds him he gets put in the garage...same theory with men. Just got to let him know WHO is really in charge!