Friendships are hard

[daisybytes]

When your friend tells you she needs some space from you, what do you think? I know what I think, I think she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore. So when she calls and asks if you want to hang out and talk and let the kids play what do you do then? Do you do it? Do you say to hell with you?

I am at a loss here. I am unsure if I really want to be friends her. Whats to say she won't need another break and make me feel horrible again!

Although she could be truly sorry and truly want to be friends again. If she says she is sorry for the stupid stupid thing she was mad at, do I forgive her? I do not want to be childish in any way about this but at the same time my life is just fine without her.  Is she worth forgiving? Was she really that good of a friend?

I guess I will never know if I don't talk to her and at least give it a chance. Right? But I feel like such a sucker. 

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband says forget her, she doesn't deserve to be friends with me. She made me feel like shit and now I'm going to go back to being friends with her? He says I am way too forgiving and she hurt me once and she will do it again.

Maybe I should just go to her place so my kids can play. Maybe I should just say I need some space from her now.

I could be throwing away a good friend, but would a good friend need space to begin with?

I think I just talked myself into saying screw her.....but I am a forgiving person and I don't really hold a grudge, unless it was something really really bad, and this wasn't that bad. I think I can get past one time stupidity. If it happens again then I will be pissed. Maybe the reason it happens to me is because I do forgive too easy. I get walked all over. 

Do I feel I need her as my friend because I don't have many friends? It's not the quantity of friends it the quality right? I don't know that her quality is very good.

Again, UGH!!!!!

I think I will go and see what she has to say and then decide if I like it or not!

[MSugarKane]

May. 7, 2008 at 2:38 PM Sometimes in life friends need a break from everyone and take it for their own mental health. At least she is being honest with you on that. I would be friends with her, but know not to care too deeply or depend on her as a 'best friend'....just a friend to meet up with from time to time.  

[KennaBarron]

May. 7, 2008 at 3:09 PM I would try and be her friend. I had a friend and we had a huge arguement and stopped talking, but after a few months she tried contacting me to see if we could get along again and I compltely turned her down. I wasn't over the fight but now that's it's been years I totally regret it becuase she was one of my best friends. And now I have no way of contacting her to say I want to be friends again, and even if I could it's been way too long. If you get burned again then to hell with her and never trust her again but you can forgive her once.

[roli_poli_joli]

May. 7, 2008 at 7:49 PM Friendships are hard, that's the truth. I think this situation really calls for a review of your friendship, how long you have been friends, and how well you really know this person. You can always find new friends for your children, they're so young and impressionable still, and you don't want to set the example of being a push-over. I am really quick to forgive, and I never forget, but there are times when you have to decide what's best for YOU. You are ultimately what matters, if she can leave you feeling this worthless, why give her the opportunity again? If you are looking for friends, I told you I would love to hang out! :) I don't have ANY friends out here, and I'm for sure not calling all my old friends to see if we can reconnect because I'm lonely. I think you need to be a strong person and wait it out, maybe not blow her off, but blow off some steam yourself before you two talk and you say something you don't mean, or she does the same. I'm not sure the circumstances here, but true friends don't "need a break", boyfriends that cheat need a break. Be strong, and give me a bump, I'd love to hang out! :)

[created2]

May. 9, 2008 at 12:10 AM One piece of advice that i think everyone should take to heart is that there are some people that like "drama" they attract it. only you can decide how much of it you want in your life, lets face it just a little of it makes life interesting. but on the other hand you have to ask yourself was she a really good friend in the past and only screwed up this once? or has she created to much drama in your life? if she has then i would say cut her loose but if it was a stupid one time mistake and she wants to make up go ahead and do that but now you will know to have somewhat of a wall up untill she can prove herself worthy of your friendship. there aren't to many people out there who are very forgiving and if you are one of those then she should thank her lucky stars that she has such a good friend as you!

[pwrpffgurl]

May. 9, 2008 at 1:13 PM I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I JUST HAD ONE DO THAT TO ME. I LIVE IN AZ AND I BECAME HELLA GOOD FREINDS WITH A NEIGHBOR WE TALKED EVRYDAY HUNG OUT ALL THE TIME WELL HER B/F GOT DEPORTED TO MEXICO SO SHE MOVED BACKED TO CALI. AND BEFORE SHE LEFT SHE WAS GOING THROUGH A LOT AND I HELPED HER ALOT. WELL THE LAST TIME I TALKED TO HER WICH WAS ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO , I WAS LIKE DO YOU HAVE LONG DISTANCE, CUZ I THOUGHT I HADN'T HEARD FROM HER BECUZ OF THAT, "SHE GOES YEAH I DO" I WAS LIKE OH YOU KNOW WE WHERE TALKING I WAS TELL HER SOME THINGS FROM OVER HERE YOU KNOW JUST CONVERSATION, WELL SHE TELLS ME" YOU KNOW I'M TRYING TO FORGET EVERTHING ABOUT AZ" AND THAT TO ME WAS A HINT THAT IT MEANT ME TOO. SO I HAVN'T HEARD FROM HER SINCE I THINK I WILL LEAVE IT AT THAT. SO IF IT BOTHERS YOU THAT MUCH WHERE IT HIT YOU IN THE HEART, I WOULD SAY FORGET ABOUT HER CUZ SHE MOST LIKELY WILL DO IT AGAIN.