i cant breath!!!

[colts0102]

OMG!!!!!! okay i am completely freaking out. i feel like a horrible mother, i feel so stupid and i am scared to death.

my 15 yr old son came home from school today and asked if his 16 yr old girlfriend could come over and watch a movie tonight. ( they have been going together for 4 days) well, of course i said yes since im going to be home all night. my daughter called about an hour after the girlfriend got her and needed a ride home from her play rehearsal, she was supposed to have a ride with a friends parent but something must have came up. so i told my son and his girlfriend to stay in the livingroom with there 5 yr old brother and not to go in the bedroom.

i left to pick my daughter up and on the way my son called and asked if i would pick up taco bell. i said yes and pick up my daughter. i then realizrd i didnt have any cash on me so i went home. i walk in and the first thing i notice is my sons bedroom door shut. ( i wasnt thinking straight at this time) i walk straight to the door and open it. i had only been gone for maybe 15 minutes. and they had not wasted any time. they were both naked and doing it. i couldnt believe what i was seeing. he only knew her for 4 days. he didnt use any protection. i was screaming at both of them and told her to get her shit i was taking her home. i kept thinking, how could i have been so stupid. but i never in a million years would have thought they would be so brave and she would be so easy. she barely knew my son.

im so scared that she may be pregnant even though i interupted the experience. what if she has something. myson says he was a virgin but now i am questioning that. maybe he has done this before without protection. omg!!! not to mention the fact that he was supposed to be watching my 5 yr old autistic son while he was banging her in the bedroom. i cant believe he was so irresponsible. what is sonny had gotten into something. he is grounded and i am taking him to the doctor as soon as i can get an appt. i am so angry but im still in shock. this sucks so bad. even my 16 yr old daughter is traumatized. of course she followed me to the bedroom. i just want to kick both of there asses.

i do have one question, if anyone reads this. should i tell the girls mom. i dont think her mom is too strict. i mean she doesnt even have a curfew. what should i do????

[Reshel]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:40 PM

Definitely tell that little skanks mother!!!! 

[ang78]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:40 PM Yes,  you should tell the girls mom.  Even if her parents aren't strict at least you were the responsible one and told.  Then you may take her to Planned parenthood or something and give her the morning after pill, just in case.  Or maybe she already is on the pill. 

[mother-of-six]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:40 PM I would want to know if it was my daughter.

[dsmomma1015]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:41 PM o boy i am so so sorry you had to catch them like this. Its good though its better to stop it now then to not know and something worse happens. I would talk to the mom,  I never had a cerfuew when i was young and it was because i was never a trouble maker i got good grades i was trusted so i say talk to the mom she deserves to know what is going on.  And don't wait to long the longer you wait the harder it will be.  Her daughter needs to be tested if she has been sleeping around and all of the children should be set down and talk about sex an open relationship is the best way to go. Best of luck to you and your family

[NicoleWienke]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:41 PM WOW! That's about all I can say on this one. That is a tough decision about telling her mom. Do you think she would care? If you think she should know then I would tell her. Seems to me your son may not have been a virgin before this. Will he give you a straight answer about anything? Well looks like you are going to have your hands full with this one. I would tell her, but would also make sure her daughter and your son are there for the talk to! Good Luck one this one! Once again WOW! How the times have changed!

[KaydsMommy]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:41 PM i think you should tell her mom. I CANT BELIEVE THAT GIRL WOULD BE SO EASY! goodness...... ne ways goodluck with this.

[MissysMunchkins]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:43 PM OH YES!!! I would definately tell her she probably suspects it but at least you will know you did inform her in case she does freak out later.

[OnceUponAFamily]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:44 PM Oh my gosh! I am so sorry! I don't know what to say, except, why not tell the girls mother, I think I would. I would have a little chat about protection, it's amazing as much as kids know today that they still chose to not use protection. SORRY!!! Good Luck ~ Kelly

[mamasneart04]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:45 PM

I would talk to mom, and see if daughter is on the pill. Lots of girls are on some kind of birth control at that age... Mostly because the age of sex starting is very young now. I would also like to say that having sex after four days seems to be more common as well. I have a sixteen year old sister that I have custody of, and that lived with us for some time..She has always been fairly open with me and even more so now that she lives with our dad...Also I drive a school bus for high school kids and you would not believe the things they are into... Me personally, I would punish for not watching his brother but not for the sex itself.. I would just talk about, the risks, maybe find a way to show him the odds of AID and HIV, make him go talk to a doc at a clinic I dont know something along those lines...These are just my ideas.. I wish you the best of luck!!! kids these days hu :o)

[mmboyzmum]

Mar. 23, 2007 at 9:46 PM I cannot even imagine going through this with my boys.  I would call the mom for sure.  They need to know first of all that her daughter is willing to sleep with a guy she has dated for 4 days and that she had the nerve to do it in your house.  I would never let my son bring a girl home again.  I am so sorry that you as a mother have to go through this.  There has got to be a level of embarrasement for you and your son and your relationship with your son may never be the same again