I am sure that you will find your peace.  I have decided that I am not trying to be happy anymore.. but content.. content with where I am at this point in time.  But it wasn't easy.  It took a lot of time to get to this point.  I can share my journey with you if you would like.... just pm me.

keri May. 14, 2008 at 10:37 PM

Sometimes when we think negative, we attract negative.  But when we think positive, we attract positive. 

There is nothing more optimistic than the thought of a new day --- a brand-new beginning filled with the promise of hope and unlimited potential.

Unfortunately, when the day actually dawns, most of us don't think of it quite that optimistically.  Too many of us often think of tomorrow as the day filled with hope, while today becomes loaded down with chores, responsibilities, and unfulfilled promises.  Starting today, you have a chance to change all that.  You can make today everything you've always dreamed your tomorrows would be.

When the alarm clock goes off, (in my case, the kids) resist the urge to let negative thoughts push into your head.  Get out of bed, be grateful for a fresh start, and wonder what exciting things the new day will bring.  Rise and shine...  and keep on shining. 

Whatever you promised yourself you'd do yesterday, get to it.  Appreciate the day for all that it is, all that it isn't, and all that it can be.  Be grateful for every minute, even those early-morning, un-sunshiney ones.  Make today the day you were so hopeful about yesterday.  If not today, then when?

You make your own happiness, whether you are a low-key emotionless person or a high-strung life of the party person.  Its all about you, and then you find your purpose in life.

 

bugsandpirates May. 14, 2008 at 10:45 PM

I'm married for 28yrs and I have 2 adult children.My life as a child was very hard,never met my mom,father was in the army didn't care about me,so I was raised by other family members,but got to live with my dad nstepmom,1st married an abusive man,almost got kill from that man,went to NY.lived there with relatives,went to live on my own,I used to worked had a good job,decided to  enjoy my life before I would get married again and have children,many ups and down,got depressed,lonely,angry,disappointed of many things but I continue because I said God sent me here for a reason and I prayed many times to God give me strength to continue.It's alot that I went thru than and even now that I'm older but I tell you I have 2 beautiful children,had a hard time to have them but I;m blessed to see them>And yes you don;t see too many marriages that are great.The relationships in a marriage change as time goes by.Some women think that it's gonna be wine and roses forever and it's not,as you get older everything changes.I've had my ups and down  but I learn that life is too short to worry about everything and everyone>I used to worried about everything,everyone,even the world and one day I woke up and realized that I was depressed,stressed,lonely,unhappy,sad etc and ask God to give me the strength to TAKE IT A DAY AT A TIME.And ever since  I do cause it's not worth it

Selena510 May. 14, 2008 at 11:20 PM

And so I live A DAY AT A TIME cause life's too  short and alot of time people live in a fantansy and life isn't like that.I wish I could have done certain things a different way but I didn't and my advice to young people is ,go to school make your dream ,enjoyed your life, and don't take anything for granted.Things always happen for a reason and something good  will come your way in time.If it wasn't that God had,has  megiven strength to continue I honesty tell you,I would have taken my LIFE but  he made me stronger.I love my huspand(It hasn't been easy)had problems with his family,but I was stronger than they throught,I love my children.Ilove my cats,any relatives that I still have ,since most of my relatives have passed away and I love and thank God for giving me another day tobe here for my family.I pray for the world  because of what's going on and that many aren't as fortunate.There are days I don't even want to get up because I have fibromyalgia,I'm type 1 diabetic,last month I has a sonogram and my doctor told me because I had pains on my left side that I have kidney stone and my liver has too much fat,I have high blood pressure,high colesteriol,I was injured in 3 car accidents and in the job that I was forced to be on disabilty for which I hated because I use to work in different fields that I loved and the injuries caused my back,my hands(carpal tunnel syndomen had surgery) So I 'm greatful that I'm not in a wheelchair yet cause I have rupture discs for which I live with excusiateing pain and choose not to be on medication,So I do my chores everyday and to relax I read ,pray,do crafts,cook,Etc.My huspand is diabetic(insulin and so is my daughter)and I just give all the love I can because I don't know what tomorrow will bring.To me the PAST is Gone,the Present is here ,so I live it and the FUTURE I don't know so live today and  give love to the ones you have now.

Selena510 May. 14, 2008 at 11:55 PM

Curlykit ,there's this book i just got 2wks ago and I'm still reading it maybe you'll like to check it out'it's by the author Sylvia Browne,ahe was an abusive wife and she's a psychic whose been in the Montel Williams Show' th e title is"Spirituals Connections ' it saids everything from family,relationships,ourselves etc.Check it out.So I hope I haven't got you too bored but I just wanted to let you know that you will find yourself.May God Bless you,give you strength and give you the answer you'll looking for.You can write to me whenever you want,I'm new here and so I haven't sent a picture of me yet(Not that I want to cause I don't like pictures)Take care

Selena510 May. 15, 2008 at 12:05 AM

Hi Curly

like I stated before you are my Oprah. This is a topic I think that a lot of mothers especially can relate to.  Currently I have been asking myself this.  I am soon to be 35 I'm in a relationship soon to be married and have to beautiful  healthy DD. We own our home we both work and belong to an OK community. I attend church and the girls are involved in various activities(more so the older one).  Now some people would say oh you have a really nice life you should be happy everyday.

  And honestly I should but I am not.  Everyday I find myself getting really frustrated for various reasons sometimes it's things that my SO or the DDS do that annoy the heck out me. They way that my SO chews with his mouth open can really make me want to loose it. And that is petty but it just goes on and I find myself going into my bathroom to just get away from everyone. Which is hard because the younger Dd is my shadow.  The older DD is 12 so she is going through her mood swings and it ticks me off because she wants everything to be a debate and I just get fed up. I try to keep a journal to channel my energy and try to figure out why am I this way. I feel awful when my SO or my DD will ask why are you looking so  MAD all the time.  And then I really go off.  But things that bother me  don't bother them I am never at a total rest. I always have things on my mind or things to do.

   I worry about my poor financial mistakes from my past which makes me very nervous. Everything just gets to me .  And I feel bad because I don't know if it is me or the others that surround me. And then again maybe I am settling on contentment  because I don't know what it takes to be Happy. I love my kids and my SO but I just feel there has to something more.

 

I hope I didn't get to off track if so I do apologize  

mizzstressed May. 16, 2008 at 2:45 PM

LOL I feel the same way happiness is remembered not felt so many of us take that back most all of us ware a mask but inside were all broken we all want something we don't know what but that want hurts like hell the only thing I'm sure of is LIFE IS A BICH! but it will be over soon so don't wait out the storm go dance in the rain!

one_texas_son May. 21, 2008 at 10:49 PM