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Question: Do you agree with paddling as a punishment?

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I just want to gauge opinion here.

I was relentlessly paddled as a girl by my stepmom, and have been left deeply affected by my experiences.

What do you think about spanking?

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myzero
May. 17, 2008 at 3:28 PM

I was spanked, paddle, or just bust my ass I learned not to do what I did again because my butt hurt for it and it wasn't worth it. Nothing sexual or oh my parents didn't love me it was because I did something wrong.

My 6 kids are spanked and 2 are grown adults happy well adjusted the other 4 are happy well mannered in school they don't get spanked for everything but if I have to I will. No drugs, alcohol abuse , no police records, active in school and sports. So JMO spanking is OK if done right.

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vsrillo
May. 17, 2008 at 3:31 PM I spank my girls with open hand on the bottom, or thigh. I had a paddle when I was a kid, and hated it. It is demeaning.  It hung in the foyer next to the coat rack. I never want to strike my girls, but NO is sometimes not enough.  I do not do it often. They need to be in real danger for me to do that, like wanting to run out into to street, or hide from me at the store.

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NannyB.
May. 17, 2008 at 3:34 PM I was spanked as I was being brought up, and my children were spanked.  I believe it is the most effective means of discipline, but I think that because some parents have abused in the name of spanking, spanking has gotten a really bad name.  Spanking and beating or abusing are not at all in the same category.

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Nicol...
May. 18, 2008 at 1:21 PM

You know... how are we supposed to end violence in the world... create peace instead of hate.... which some may not think is important, but the smart people realize that every major country has lots of nuclear weapons of mass destruction and right now even in our own country our set plan is to (even if it was an accident) counter act a nuclear strike with one of our own, which if enough (and by enough I mean a small few) is set off it will kill every person on the planet.... so yes maybe we need to change and stop the violence in the world because these weapons are not going away...  back to the point... how can we even begin to believe that we will become a peaceful species when we accept violence in our own home towards our innocent children as a way to dominate over them? parents believe they are doing it for their own good just as we as a world believe we are violent in wars for our own good. I believe this non spanking movement is more than necessary to create the change we NEED in the world. "BE the change you want to see in the world."

Not to mention the damage spanking does on an individual level to a child's delicate and sensitive psyche. Which I don't think it takes an expert to figure that out... but apparently even experts telling people so is not enough... just goes to show how hard our society fights change.  

I don't hate or blame spankers, they have been very thoroughly conditioned to believe it is the right and only way to raise children... however I challenge them to peel away their conditioning and think for themselves whether hitting your child is really the way you want to teach them to behave... 

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ddbz
May. 20, 2008 at 12:31 PM As a non-spanker I care more about what's going on INSIDE my children than OUTISDE. I don't expect my kids to be the best behaved children at the potluck, and I don't need to look like "Mother of the Year."  What matters to me is that my kids can always come to me, tell me what's on their minds, we can work it out when things don't go right, and we can always forgive each other at the end of the day and start fresh tomorrow.

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RFW
May. 20, 2008 at 12:38 PM I was never spanked a day in my life and I turned out fine. I am respectfully and follow rules (sometimes to a fault). I plan on doing the same w/ my DD

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grady...
May. 20, 2008 at 8:48 PM My parents did not believe in spanking and neither do I.  My son will never be touched in a negative way from his parents.  I think it's disgusting that parents think it is okay to hit your child to teach them correct behavior.  It's lazy and ineffective parenting.  More parents should take an active role in their children's lives and learn to use other forms of discipline to teach their children correct behavior.  No wonder our world is so violent...I am shocked by the results of your poll...Hopefully it will be tipping in the favor of nonspankers, I will check back in a few days.

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jody7847
May. 20, 2008 at 8:54 PM Coming from a family of spankers, I can only say its affected me in alot of negative ways. For one, My sense of trust was affected as a child, and therefore I will never be doing that crap to my kids. I had anger management issues for years til I sought therapy. that I beleive was caused my the spanking I had constantly as a child.

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Emmay...
May. 21, 2008 at 9:42 AM i was spanked bare botom over my moms lap .I spank my daughter the same way

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Xakana
May. 21, 2008 at 5:30 PM It's abuse. People can try to say it's not until they're blue in the face and they are still abusing their children. It's violent, humiliating, degrading, damaging and not everyone feels "just fine" when they grow up, even if they were only spanked a few times. Parents who spank are nothing but bullies who either can't or won't learn how to be real parents and can't control their own violent impulses.

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