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I had my son 7 months ago, and to this day I still feel like I am the one rasing this baby. I hardly ever get help, and when I do I have to ask for it. I just dont feel like everyone else has as much trouble getting their partner to help them as I do.

After having a baby did you feel like you were the only one raising the child even though the father was still around?

  • yes

    32%
  • no

    20%
  • sometimes

    38%
  • I am the one raising the baby

    8%
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Submitted by at 7:32 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
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After having a baby did you feel like you were the only one raising the child even though the father was still around?

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powellspia...
Submitted by at 7:32 PM on Dec. 5, 2008
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  • lipstickcl...
    Submitted by   at 12:55 AM on December 6, 2008

    Luckily my husband was just as excited about taking care of the babies as I was...we have always shared the work :)

  • zombie_mom...
    Submitted by   at 5:14 AM on December 6, 2008

    My husband had never been around an infant until our daughter was born. He was nervous! I had to walk him thru a lot of things at first, but he caught on quick and is a pro now.

  • mommee_b
    Submitted by   at 12:14 AM on December 8, 2008

    my daughter is three and a half and my husband has yet to give a SINGLE bath or do a daiper. He has taken her to the potty since she trained before she was two, but only since she learned to wipe herself and only for teetee, not poop. He occasionally feeds her when I make him and he's never read her book or taught her anything other than how to say funny things. I am totally alone on the real child rearing.

  • TikkiNippe...
    Submitted by   at 11:49 AM on December 11, 2008

    My husband was deployed when our daughter was born. so I didnt have any help at all. be thankful for what you got!

  • CK147
    Submitted by   at 10:59 AM on December 12, 2008

    My husband tried to work more hours to stay away from the house after our first was born, I even had to sleep on the couch because he couldn't handle having to get up and work after the baby had been up every few hours. We would fight about it alot, and to this day and baby #3 on the way, he's changed maybe 5 diapers in our 2 daughters lives, bottled feed them only a handful of times and doesn't feed them now! Bath's and anything else. YEAH RIGHT!!! I've learned to live with it, but it still bugs me.

  • BsWifey
    Submitted by   at 3:34 PM on December 13, 2008

    I put sometimes, my husband is in the Marine Corps and since our son I no longer work. It's my job to take care of him. Once he comes home, I do get a little help but I normally don't care... he knows if I really need a break. It's fine with me, I really enjoy being a mother... and it is most definitely the hardest thing I've done but more than rewarding.

  • StoneFox
    Submitted by   at 1:22 AM on December 14, 2008

    LOL yes. I feel this way. He was amazing in the beginning, but I think it's because he was in the honey moon stage. Now, I have to ask him a million times for help.

  • bamawife
    Submitted by   at 9:38 PM on December 18, 2008

    I voted yes and he eventually became my EX husband.

  • Tiredmom53
    Submitted by   at 10:21 PM on December 19, 2008

    my hubby took care of the boys as much as I did, we both worked and share home responsibility together.

  • captaintar...
    Submitted by   at 12:37 AM on December 26, 2008

    Not at all. My SO works nights, so on the nights that he was off he did all the nighttime feedings and changings and lovings and let me sleep. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one raising my son now, but only because my SO works hard so that I don't have to. I am very fortunate!!!

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