Do grandparents have a say in how you raise your children?

  • Yes, they should have a say

    4%
  • They can give their opinion but that is all

    73%
  • No way

    20%
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BonesDrago...
Submitted by at 3:01 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
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Do grandparents have a say in how you raise your children?

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BonesDrago...
Submitted by at 3:01 PM on Dec. 8, 2008
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  • deadheadje...
    Submitted by   at 3:36 PM on December 9, 2008

    No one has a say in the way my husband and I raise our children. Period.

  • SylviaNCal...
    Submitted by   at 5:09 PM on December 9, 2008

    Not really. They can give their opinion once, but they really need to step back and let their grown children raise their own child. The only time I say they have more of a say is when the parents are really doing everything for the child and the grandparents are actually involved day to day because they're living with them or something.

  • BonesDrago...
    Submitted by   at 6:24 PM on December 9, 2008

    See my mother emailed me a while ago and it talked about how poorly she thought I was doing,etc. with my boys. So when I called her on its stupidity and rottenness she said to me..."I dont understand why I cant have a say about those boys" and I told her she could, as an opinion but that is all it would be. Just like if anyone else had given us advice or an opinion on how we did something...we'd thank them, think about what they said(or not) and then WE'd decide from there since WE are the parents.

    Then I remembered all these things Ive read across message boards about how parents or In-Laws interfere and think they have a say in the raising of the kids, so I thought I would ask here! LOL

  • lipstickcl...
    Submitted by   at 2:59 AM on December 10, 2008

    I might ask for an opinion, but they know better than to offer it unsolicited. They had their turn to raise kids, they don't have a say in how we raise ours.

  • BsWifey
    Submitted by   at 10:12 AM on December 14, 2008

    I put other, they can give an opinion IF I ask for it, I don't need someone acting like I'm not doing something correctly or in the best interest of my child, etc etc etc - and the only one who does that is my MIL, my parents [after being the family eff up by quitting college] praise me ALL the time [along with their friends] on what a great job I'm doing with my son, etc.

  • rach_jaco
    Submitted by   at 9:31 AM on December 23, 2008

    Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but at the end of the day, my husband and I decide what is best for our daughter.

  • mamaomalle...
    Submitted by   at 9:53 PM on December 24, 2008

    Since my grandparents had to step in and do everything my dad couldn't, he seems to think he has that right to my child. It drives me crazy. He acts like my husband doesn't have anything to do with our baby, and that our baby needs him more than it's father. And seeing as how all his (5) children were raised by their (4) different mothers, he doesn't have any right at all. Like Silvia said, it really depends on how much they are apart of the child's life. Because honestly I don't think I would have survived 22 years if it wasn't for my grandparents. On the other hand, I think my kid will do just fine without my father's help.

  • RanaAurora
    Submitted by   at 3:43 PM on December 27, 2008

    If you live under their roof, they have a say.
    If you don't, they can give their opinion, but that's it.

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