So here's the thing My daughter is 15 MONTHS and she likes to touch everything....
My sister in law and brother hate it they are always yelling are her to stop playing with the dog dish or keys or they baby stuff cause they think she might brake it..... even though shes not rough .. even if she get to close to the new babies she gets yelled at not to hurt them and she doesn't have to touch them.....

I believe that it should be my job to yell at her or say yes and now.. i also believe that this a learning stage for her ... that unless its going to hurt or or someone else to just let he bee.. am i a bad mom for not saying anything to her although other people do it.. and i get mad cause they are..

I try not to say anything to them cause we rent a room in there house so please tell me iam i doing the right thing i should i just discipline at her everytime shes being a kid...

Is it normal Not to Discipline you're baby for picking up, playing with , or Grabbing Any thing like , Car keys or cloths etc.

  • Yes, It normal for them to touch thing

  • Yes, but they still need some kind of discipline

  • Sometime

  • No, always discipline them for touch things

  • you're the mom do what you think is best

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Submitted by at 6:53 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
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Submitted by at 6:53 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
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  • SAHM_N_Luv...
    Submitted by   at 7:06 PM on December 11, 2008

    It's normal for them to touch everything, but we still have to teach them what is ok to touch and what isn't. Which is exactly what discipline means -- to teach. It's not the same thing as punishment. There are certain things my 14 month old isn't allowed to touch, like the dog dishes (germs, plus he tries to eat their dog food), or our cell phones (because he already ruined one by getting drool in it). I don't think it's your brother and sister-in-laws place to be setting the limits for your child though, unless she's grabbing for something that's truly unsafe.

  • armywifeLJ...
    Submitted by   at 9:21 PM on December 11, 2008

    definitly discipline! what if it was something hot? a furnace, a curling iron, or maybe a mean dog she thinks is cute? i'm not saying spank her or anything but she needs to know what she can and cant touch. it's not good for her to never have boundries

  • Cbous
    Submitted by   at 10:45 PM on December 11, 2008

    This is tough for you because you are living in her home and those are her things, maybe some have sentimental value and she has a right to have her home the way she wants it. On the other hand, she should not be yelling at your child. You should be proactive and teach your child not to touch things that she shouldn't. I had glass and candles and other things around my kids and I never had a problem with them, nor did I yell at them. I would distract them or just tell them no. It was just a learning process. I don't like it when people come to my house with their kids and they tear the place up, you have to constantly take breakables away from them and they parents never notice or say anything to the child, it is disrespectful. Just be gentle with your child and intervene before your sister in law feels she needs to step in and you will all be happier. Personally, I would get my own place. I like the freedom that comes with being in your own space. Good luck!

  • 3rdtymsthe...
    Submitted by   at 11:33 AM on December 13, 2008

    discipline is not the same as punish Discipline is teaching. shes still young enough to distract. try getting her interested in something else. as your pulling her away from the item in question say something like "don't touch" then say " touch this" and hand her a toy.

  • MamiJaAyla
    Submitted by   at 12:50 AM on December 15, 2008

    I was a pretty much let them do their thing mom too but it drove my mother nuts, and when my son was at her house she taught him our hand go on our booty. Which he thought was hilarious, so when he would go to touch something that he shouldn't she would ask where do our hands go? and he would do it.
    Her reasoning was multifolded -- 1. its important to teach them what is and isn't okay to touch 2. it is important to teach them to respect others homes and valuables.
    I also ended up living with family when my child was 1-2, its tough. I created a safe space in our room where he was pretty much free to do his thing. BUT I would also reinforce that it was not okay to touch cuca's things b/c it was her's and/or dangerous. Nothing wrong with starting to teach boundaries and safety from the very beginning. I always tell my kids, that my job is to keep them safe and help them grow into good and healthy adults. (drives them nuts, LOL_

  • ronronsbea...
    Submitted by   at 2:37 PM on December 16, 2008

    she needs's not your home so it is your job to teach her to be respectful. She needs to touch but she also has to learn what she can't touch. It's their home. I would be upset if someone was living with me and their child was bothering my stuff especially the dog dish....maybe they are dealing with it bc you aren't? You said you are a let them be kind of mom so are you just letting her get into things? If so that kind of leaves them no choice. Not that yelling at her is okay but you get my point.

  • TNGirl420
    Submitted by   at 12:36 AM on December 22, 2008

    I'm pretty much a let them do their own thing mom too. But I also set certain boundaries. It's for their own good. I know that sounds weird but there are just certian things they don't need to touch they could get hurt. As long as it doesn't cause harm in any way I'm all for it. But come on you don't want your child to break others things and all. And then again you are living in someone else's home. I don't think it is right for them to yell at your child or anything . I think maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with them so you can come to an agreement on what is ok and not ok.

  • RanaAurora
    Submitted by   at 3:29 AM on December 25, 2008

    You need to teach her that everything within her grasp is NOT okay for her to touch, and at someone elses' house, you NEED to be on her like a hawk and not allow her to mess with their things.
    However, like with the new baby, she needs to be shown how to gentle touch a baby. She can't learn if they won't let her try.

  • Gisela1985
    Submitted by   at 4:10 AM on January 5, 2009

    It depends on what she is touching, Like the car keys, I have gotten after my daughter for because she has lost them a couple times on us. She needs to know what she can and cant play with, even if you try using a diversion object, Tell her no to what she is playing with that you dont want her to have and give her an alternate object that you are okay with her to play with. Like the whole key thing, I know the plastic toy ones dont work for anything. If you go to a place where they make keys, and just buy the key without making a copy or whatever, give her her own set, and they have those really cool designer ones out with different things painted on them. Much more interesting than mommys, and not as big of a concern if they get lost. Give her a bowl of dry cereal for the dog food, and something not too sugary in case she tries to give it to the dog. Just a couple of suggestions for you. Hope they help

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