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My friend is having a second child (boy) and she already has a two year old girl. She told me she might not have a baby shower because it is said to be tacky to have a shower with each child. I told her she is nuts especially because she is have a boy and has limited boy clothing as of right now. Plus I told her the shower is not just about gifts, but about welcoming the new child in your life and celebrating the life of the child with your friends and family.

Would you have a baby shower if it was your second child? Or do you think it is tacky?

  • Yes I would have a shower

    57%
  • No I think it is tacky

    13%
  • Maybe, if the sex of the child was different then my first

    23%
  • Um i'm not sure, explain

    4%
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Submitted by at 12:26 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
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Submitted by at 12:26 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
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  • amw1027
    Submitted by   at 12:45 PM on December 14, 2008

    I had never heard of people not doing baby showers for more then one child until I had my second and my friend asked why the family was throwing one for me. I think that if its a different sex then you would need at least clothes..LOL

  • momtoboyng...
    Submitted by   at 12:55 PM on December 14, 2008

    Umm... I think all babies deserve a celebration. I didn't expect to have another baby shower with Izzy, but my awesome friends surprised me which I am so greatful for. IMO you should have a "baby shower"/ get together/ celebration for each and every child : )

  • lipstickcl...
    Submitted by   at 3:18 PM on December 14, 2008

    I wouldn't throw a shower for myself, but I don't think it's tacky for someone else to have a shower for her.

  • lalasha
    Submitted by   at 11:10 PM on December 14, 2008

    after the baby is born if it is the second I think there should be a meet and greet and odds are people will bring presents

  • proudmommy...
    Submitted by   at 10:59 AM on December 15, 2008

    I did. My first was a boy and my second was a girl. Neither times did I have one just for the gifts, but to get my "loved ones" together at one time. Gifts were nice though.

  • mysticwv
    Submitted by   at 10:37 PM on December 15, 2008

    It's extremely tacky to have a second baby shower even if the baby is a different sex than the first one. I had a baby shower for my son and I'm due with a girl now but I'm not having another shower because it's not everyone else's responsibility to make sure my kids have everything they need. If it were truly about celebrating the new baby and not about gifts then women would have a welcome home party for the baby instead of baby showers.

  • AmaliaD
    Submitted by   at 11:31 PM on December 15, 2008

    i asked this question inmy "due in may 09" group and most people said go ahead and have a second, third, fourth, fifth showers... that like you said, it is to welcome the child and celebrate not just gifts (obv you get way less gifts) and it is more about just having the party. i am having my second (my son is going to have a lil brother!) and i dont care that they are the same sex, i am having a party for him, i dont care if i get nothing at all, that is not the point, his babybook needs pics on teh baby shower page too, it is just what you do.

  • SheetyMeez
    Submitted by   at 4:12 AM on December 16, 2008

    I probly wouldn't do it, but I don't think it's tacky. Every new baby deserves gifts. I shouldn't matter if it's the first child or not.

  • cmarielin
    Submitted by   at 10:23 AM on December 16, 2008

    I probably wouldn't throw my own, but if someone else wanted to, sure.

  • SahmTam
    Submitted by   at 10:33 AM on December 17, 2008

    I don't think it's tacky. I just don't know anyone who has ever thrown themself a shower, so I don't really know what to think about it. My bff threw me a surprise shower with baby # 2 and I was very appreciative! My oldest was a boy born in July and my 2nd was a girl born in January. Needless to say I needed a few things ;-) My youngest (another boy and another July baby) didn't have a shower, but he was just a lb. heavier than my oldest had been and born only 6 days apart from my oldest's b-day and I had kept my oldest's clothes, so I pretty much had everything I needed.

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