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I am a step-mother of 5 children. I am an active participant in their raising and discipline both when they are at my home and when they are that their mothers. I'm curious how people feel about that, I've heard a few things for both sides. The mother to my oldest 3 step-children and will call our house when she is having problems, and both my husband and I address the problem. We work together so the children know that all 4 parents are supporting eachother. Please be honest and leave a comment, I'm really curious to see how everyone feels. Thank you.

Should step-parents be able to discipline and correct inappropriate behavior while at their home?

  • Yes, they are parents too and it is their home.

    52%
  • No they are not the biological parents.

    4%
  • As long as there is no question of abuse, Absolutely.

    37%
  • Other (please explain)

    5%
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JalynnMari...
Submitted by at 2:18 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
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Should step-parents be able to discipline and correct inappropriate behavior while at their home?

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JalynnMari...
Submitted by at 2:18 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
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  • lipstickcl...
    Submitted by   at 3:14 PM on December 14, 2008

    I think in any family situation, the parents and step-parents should do what works best for their family and their kids. It sounds like that's what you are doing. I don't know why anyone would have an issue with that...we all do the best we can, whether it's for biological kids or step kids.

  • jostock
    Submitted by   at 6:42 PM on December 14, 2008

    my husband is the step fsther to 4 of my kids and he is great

  • MamiJaAyla
    Submitted by   at 12:31 AM on December 15, 2008

    my children do not have a step mom yet but when we went to visit their father his "girl" friend was there with her daughter, and yes I expected her to scold my children as needed too.
    I am firmly of the belief that it takes a village and I will say something to any child I see doing something dangerous or inappropiate and hope other will do the same. We are not "SuperMom" and I hope that my children would respect all adults equally. I think that you guys are doing what is healthiest for your children. So I voted that Yes, as long as they were not being abusive (physically or psychologically) but just treating my child as if it was their own.

  • Mweddle
    Submitted by   at 4:44 AM on December 16, 2008

    It depends on the age of the child.

  • Debbie0620...
    Submitted by   at 2:44 PM on December 16, 2008

    My stepdaughter's mom tells her she doesn't have to listen to me. It's super annoying. Good thing is that dad has made it super clear that she does have to listen to me and she does. The end result is that she listens but half the time waits until her dad says it, even though he never says anything different than me and always backs me up.

  • SabrinaMBo...
    Submitted by   at 8:57 PM on December 19, 2008

    I answered yes but I should have said only if there is no abuse. My step father was abusive to me and to my mother. For stupid stuff like being at work to late...

  • KayRay
    Submitted by   at 8:07 PM on December 20, 2008

    As long as both parents agreed to it!

  • cmarielin
    Submitted by   at 12:25 AM on December 21, 2008

    I have a step-daughter, but I've never really had to discipline her....but I've had some good heart-to-hearts with her before. If some sort of disciplinary action was needed, though, I guess if I had to, I had to. That would be kind of uncomfortable though....for me, anyway.

  • Ultrakiwi
    Submitted by   at 4:46 PM on December 24, 2008

    As long as step parents love and respect the children as their own, they should be able to discipline them as their own. I say this because I have had more than one step parent.. lol. I never minded being told what to do when they treated me well. However, if the children are treated like less than their own children and disrespected, they have no right what-so-ever.

  • dayziesnro...
    Submitted by   at 2:53 PM on December 30, 2008

    I just moved in with my boyfriend, and he's not wanting to discipline my daughter. I think it's going to be alright sooner or later, when she's older, I think he'll get the hang of it, but for now, he has barely said her name in a way that makes her stop what she's doing. ...I support step parents helping with the discipline.

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