Can You actually Spoil an infant with too much atention, holding them too much, or always picking them up when they cry?

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youngmum87
Submitted by at 8:26 PM on Dec. 14, 2008
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Can You actually Spoil an infant with too much atention, holding them too much, or always picking them up when they cry?

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  • PhilsBabyM...
    Submitted by   at 9:12 PM on December 14, 2008

    Of course you can't spoil an infant. You can teach them to trust that you will meet all of their needs. Being loved and cuddled is just as much a need as being fed and diapered. :)

  • MommaRox46...
    Submitted by   at 9:21 PM on December 14, 2008

    ? I'm wondering that too! She cries when we walk with her, sit her down, or put her in her swing. She even looks up to see if we're looking at her cry. But she's only 2.5 months old, and not colicy.

  • mesmoreyez...
    Submitted by   at 12:22 PM on December 15, 2008

    No way, other than food/shelter/diapers, all infants need is love and attention. You're not spoiling, they need the nurturing to feel safe.

  • boy_or_gir...
    Submitted by   at 2:16 PM on December 15, 2008

    I actually went to school for this, but never needed an education to answer this question. No, you can not spoil a child under 6 months by holding them too much. In fact in studies of different cultures.....the ones that carry their children around on their backs/fronts all the time, their children hit their peak crying period in half the time they do in cultures like us. They are also better equipped to be separated from their parent. The reason behind this is that they feel safe and secure, so they have no fear when mom is not there. Hold that baby as much as it wants and as much as you want. Ignore the people telling you otherwise. My son was with me 24/7 his first 6 months and never shed a tear when i left him in daycare to go back to school at 6 months old. This is because he felt safe and secure, because i was there for his every need before that.

  • Mweddle
    Submitted by   at 4:34 AM on December 16, 2008

    You cant spoil a child under 2. They need attention and affection from you. They dont really understand the concept of stuff and manipulation until about 2.

  • nysa00
    Submitted by   at 3:45 PM on December 18, 2008

    No not an infant, only once they reach the toddler years do you have to be careful about letting them think you are on this Earth to attend their every whim, this issue strangely comes back during the teen years ;)

  • grandmasix
    Submitted by   at 5:30 PM on December 20, 2008

    YES, SO DON'T RAISE A CRY BABY.

  • RanaAurora
    Submitted by   at 2:37 AM on December 21, 2008

    Absolutely not. In fact, if you DON'T respond to them when they cry, or cuddle them when they want attention, you're going to create an insecure infant who will cry MORE.

  • MelanieLou...
    Submitted by   at 6:31 PM on December 21, 2008

    Definitely not!! Until a child learns to talk and can effectively communicate, if you ignore their cries, you're essentially telling them that you don't care about them, making them needy and clingy. Respond to your baby's cries and fusses and he will know you're always there for him... making him more independent in the long run.

  • Nissa54
    Submitted by   at 8:02 AM on December 22, 2008

    why not? spoil away.......most enjoyable pleasure a parent can have......

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