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he lied about his name, age, his history period. he's just no good. but he found out that i'm was thinking about filing child support papers on him and now trying to "tell" me everything and to get me not to go to court in fear of going to jail. what to do?

i just found out that everthing about my kids father is a lie and he's suppose to be on the run from the law. he doesn't help me with the kids and some tell me that i shold put him on child support but he don't work, and turn his butt in, should I?

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Submitted by Anonymous at 12:21 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
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i just found out that everthing about my kids father is a lie and he's suppose to be on the run from the law. he doesn't help me with the kids and some tell me that i shold put him on child support but he don't work, and turn his butt in, should I?

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Submitted by Anonymous at 12:21 PM on Dec. 15, 2008
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  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 3:39 PM on December 15, 2008

    Thats basically the case with me. Trust me, you need to go to court. DOR is trying to find my daughters "father" he's been untraceable for 8 months. You need to think of the best interest of your child not his...he probably won't pay so please take action now before he hits the road.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 4:37 PM on December 15, 2008

    Maybe he's trying to come clean now so you won't go to court...there's still later. When he feels that he's won, then he will skip out and your child won't have a dime for shoes.


    Go to court now.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 5:17 PM on December 15, 2008

    I never been in this situation but hoping with the problems i am having now with my baby's father it won't go into court. Your situation is messed up and the guy LIED about everything..damn I say go turn him in and tell the police what he's told you. Get the dude help to.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 9:55 PM on December 15, 2008

    tell him you know everything and he better help w/ kids, get a job and pay ya or you WILL be turning his ass in. use it in your favor. dont rat him out because then you get nothing, do it for your kids, make himdo what they deserve to have witch is financial support and dad's involvement with their upbringing.... make better choices in men in the future !

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 11:24 AM on December 16, 2008

    Solve everything in the court system. But if he is court ordered to pay child support, you have to realize that he will also get some sort of visitation, unless you have PROOF that he is an unfit father. And if he's a chronic liar, and can just "disappear", I would be scared shitless that he would run off with my babies. It's your choice, you're going to struggle either way. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 10:02 AM on December 18, 2008

    I would be afraid of someone that could lie about those sort of things and what he is hiding from?? U need to turn him in for your oqn safety and the childs..

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 6:19 PM on December 20, 2008

    Go to court, this doesn't sound like a safe person at all. Of course he is trying to save his butt now, that's what people do when they get caught. Given the opportunity to lie again, he will, don't let him fool you. Get the hell away from him and don't ever let him manipulate or lie to you again!

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 9:07 PM on December 21, 2008

    If he lied to you about everything, there may be more baby's of his out there, and he needs to step up and deal with everything he's done!

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 3:25 PM on December 30, 2008

    I;m scared for u and the kids. what the hell is he on the run from the law for? you need to get out. don;t look for him to pay $, don;t turn him in, don't trust anything he says, just get out!

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 10:23 AM on January 3, 2009

    Bring him to court now, while you still know where he is. You don't have to tell him, he'll find out when they serve him. If you tell him before that, and he skips town, they may never find him. If you don't tell him, then he gets served, and doesn't show up, they'll issue a warrant for his arrest. It's true he may never pay, it's true he may bail and never show his face, but if you never have him served before he disappears, you will have no recourse. At least if he's been served, etc. you'll have some legal recourse once he does show up, or is found. And please know, the poster who said he'll get visitation is WRONG!! Child support and visitation are two separate issues. Ask any lawyer. You take him in for CS, if he wants visitation, he has to take YOU in. I suppose he can try to bring it up, but if anyone tries to TELL a judge that they will only pay CS if they get visitation, then just watch that judge rip them a new one! People think that all the time and it's JUST NOT TRUE!! Good luck. BTW, he sounds just like my ex. Good riddance to bad rubbish! Oh, and if he doesn't work, when you take him in for CS, they will tell him to get a job. They WILL NOT tell him, oh, that's ok, you don't have to pay. LOL! If they have no income figures, then they will use the basic order for your state. As long as he is on the birth certificate, he will be ordered to pay something. Whether he pays it or not is another question!

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