I am thinking about writing a book about being a young mom, the challenges you face, and the things that you go through. Please give me honest opinions with out debating with each other. I appreciate your time and your honest answers. Please do not be afraid of what others think. If you have ideas for me or things that you think I should include, please message me personally. Thank You.

THIS IS NOT A DEBATE! Do you think a womans age effects her ability to be a good mom? If so please explain why. I do not want to debate with people I would just like to hear some honest opinions for my own reasons. Thank you.

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Submitted by at 6:59 PM on Dec. 17, 2008
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THIS IS NOT A DEBATE! Do you think a womans age effects her ability to be a good mom? If so please explain why. I do not want to debate with people I would just like to hear some honest opinions for my own reasons. Thank you.

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Submitted by at 6:59 PM on Dec. 17, 2008
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  • babymar
    Submitted by   at 8:17 PM on December 17, 2008

    i really believe it all depends on the woman and not her age... when i was a teenager, my best friend was a teen mom and she was incredible... i also was a teen mom, but i feel i'm a better mother now in my 30's than i was the first time... i had to vote other because i honestly don't feel age is a factor...

  • lipstickcl...
    Submitted by   at 8:22 PM on December 17, 2008

    I think maturity, not age, is what really makes the difference. Some teenagers and young women are very mature and responsible, and some older women still aren't. If a woman is mature enough at a young age, then age doesn't matter. For some people, they do mature with age. So, I think it just depends on the person, but age definitley is not the most important factor.

  • Angelgurl1...
    Submitted by   at 9:38 PM on December 17, 2008

    I had my daughter at 26,I did not plan on doing it alone but things happen and men get scared when they arent ready. I was a doting,patient mother,I had had enough "fun"in my life,I was done with the party scene. I didnt care if I was "missing"out on anything,bc I had already seen what was out there and knew THAT old life was not positive. I am glad that I was older,had I had a child before I was ready I think it couldve made me resentful..My mother had me at 18 and wasnt ready,not saying she was a bad mom,just different then how I am with my daughter.I think it depends on the womans life experience

  • juliasmomm...
    Submitted by   at 12:16 AM on December 18, 2008

    it depends on the woman! and not her age. my very good friend became a mother at 17, and she is one of the best, most living moms i have ever seen, and her son adores her. On the other hand, my friends step mom is a witch, even to her own children.

  • luvmyausti...
    Submitted by   at 12:23 AM on December 19, 2008

    i voted yes my reasons for this is because i had my first son at 19 to me that is young and i just had our second son four months ago and i am almost 30. there is a huge difference in now and then i can go on but do not want to debate lol!

  • ladynell4g...
    Submitted by   at 3:19 AM on December 19, 2008

    To me it depends both on the age and the woman. Many would say woman older than a certain age shouldn't be a mother, because they are too old. I do feel that physical, mental, emotional, and maturity plays a role in how a woman is affected as a mother. Too young and you might start regreting all the things you did not get to do, so sometimes many tend to live their life through their children. I believe the more mature you are the better parent you'll be as a mother. I'm an older mother and my life is mostly wrapped up in giving the best for my children. Had I became a parent too young, I might have been one of those parents who leaves their children with everyone to please my selfish desires and pleasures. Physical can affect if a woman is not physically able to carry a child in her older age. I know parents who were very young when they became a parent: some good and others wasn't so good. So I agree, it all depend on the woman, her emotional and physical condition, and her maturity level.

  • beckie66
    Submitted by   at 5:27 AM on December 19, 2008

    Well, I had my one and only child at 37, a surprise, and while I have lived a lot of my life already, I was not prepared to be a mom and had to make a lot of changes in my life rather quickly.  It is harder being an older mom, especially with menopause creeping up and wreaking havoc with my emotions and such.  And I just don't always have the energy.  I think as an older mom I worry about things so much more because I am closer to death (if that makes sense) and worry about my son growing up with older parents, or one or no parents even.  I know it is more the norm now, even in Hollywood, to start a family later in life, but still, it is not easy.  I think being a younger mom makes you fearless of things because you just roll with the punches and you have a better support system, especially in this day and age.  You still have your HS or college friends, and probably your parents or relatives to help.   And the Internet - God Bless the Internet!  Now, that doesn't mean I am OK with teen or tween moms, because to me, that is a child raising a child.  I know accidents happen, but kids who purposely get pregnant - I just can't imagine.  Get a puppy first and see how much commitment is needed to take care of a baby - taking care of a puppy is the closest thing to having a child IMHO.  You still have your education to finish and your life to live, which you cannot do 100% once you are a mom.  Your child becomes the center of the universe now - not you.  My mom had me when she was 19 - she had already dropped out of HS and 'just always wanted to be a mom'.  I am not saying she isn't a good mom, but I think things would have turned out differently if she had me when she was a little older and more established in her own life.  I know I would have been a more relaxed mom if I had a child 10-15 years ago, but not necessarily a better mom.  I have more experiences under my belt to pass on to my son.  And I am able to stay home with him now, something I probably would have not been able to do years ago.  Good luck in your research!

  • SmidgensMo...
    Submitted by   at 9:48 AM on December 19, 2008

    Absolutely not! My Great Aunt was 58 when she took me to raise, I was 10 days old. She did an awsome job if I do say so myself! She had the advantage of raising 3 boys before me and so hind sight is 20/20!!!!!!!
    Additionally I had advantages that most other kids do not have including being able to travel to all the 50 states visiting relatives and seeing the country. Traveled internationally too! I also have a better grip on life in general especially how to deal with these tough times we are going thru now! Only part that sucks is that she is not alive now to give me the advice and support while I am raising my baby girl. I was 30 years old when she passed and my Bapa passed last November he was 98 and he just loved snuggling my baby, his sweetheart Gabrielle. And I am an older mom too! I was 35 when I had my little one! I did not feel like I was ready to have any children any sooner than I did. I still feel like I am too young actually.

  • carinsmomm...
    Submitted by   at 7:42 PM on December 19, 2008

    Thank you guys for your input. I think it is going to be very helpful.

  • LaurenS
    Submitted by   at 12:42 PM on December 22, 2008

    it depends on the maturity level of the mother. most of the time the older the mother, the more mature, but not always. i think you make better decisions when you are educated about things, which doesn't mean that young mothers aren't. i had my first when i was 20 and am having my third at 25. I feel like a have a little more patience now, but other than that nothing has really changed.

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