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My dad has this new gf who he moved in only after knowing her for about a month. She is younger than me and not to sound stuck up, but before she moved in with my dad she was living in a trailer park. My dad always puts thought into his gifts for me and my kids but this year she did all the shopping. After opening up what was obviously a bunch of dollar store crap, I was so offended I couldn't even talk for the rest of the day. I'm sorry but all you have to do is step one foot in my house or take one look at my kids to know we are not dollar store people. My husband and I always make sure to get eveyone in the family thoughtful and well pretty nice priced gifts. I understand my dad lost about 50,000 in yearly pay this year and the economy sucks for everyone. But I was more hurt that he let her decide what to get his family when she doesn't even know us. I bought her a $70 dollar bottle of perfume even though I barely know her and gave my dad a $250 gift card to Lowes because he is remo

Should I be offended that my dad let his new gf do the Christmas shopping this year?

  • He should have done it himself like he always does.

    43%
  • I shouldn't be offended. Maybe she did her best.

    29%
  • I should disown my dad until this girl is gone.

    0%
  • I'm being spoiled about it and should move on. I'm an adult and I don't need my dad anymore.

    27%
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Submitted by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on Jan. 4, 2010
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Should I be offended that my dad let his new gf do the Christmas shopping this year?

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Submitted by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on Jan. 4, 2010
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  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 11:52 AM on January 4, 2010

    (cont.) I gave him the gift card because he is remodeling his bathroom. I am also a cake decorator and made some incredibly decorated cupcakes for everyone. She just manhandled the container ruining the cupcakes. I was so angry I could have strangled her. My dad always gets me some kind of kitchenware for under $50 and I'm always happy with that. She didn't even ask what my kids like so they got a bunch of stuff I will just give away because they wont play with it. I thanked her for all the crap she gave us and she didn't even thank me for her gift. The point is this was the most impersonal and embarrassing Christmas I have ever spent with my family and I am so hurt by my dad.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 1:23 PM on January 5, 2010

    Wow... I'm so glad material things aren't THAT important to me and my family.
    You poor dear.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 2:25 AM on January 23, 2010

    Maybe you don't realize how bad your daddy is really hurting. Besides Christmas and Bday gifts are for children and spouses. Why were you embarrassed?

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 8:51 PM on January 23, 2010

    50k is a big drop and your complaining about gifts you received. I couldnt even get presents for anyone this year. Feel lucky that he is still with you and that you got anything at all. Christmas is about family not gifts. Maybe you will realize this when he dies. That is what it took for me to realize how much I loved my brother.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 10:48 PM on January 23, 2010

    Thank you for the comments so far. I do agree Christmas is for family and that was my point. This girl and I say girl because the little tramp is younger than me, whole other problem in itself, is not really family and I'm not so much upset at the fact that they were cheap and useless gifts but more that my dad didn't take any effort or thought in the giving process himself. He just let this girl who doesn't even know me or my kids completely take over everything. It isn't just about the cost. She spent way more on buying a ton of cheap crap than she would have if she had even bothered to get to know us a little and come up with something more thoughtful. Like I did. I spend all year observing and asking to make sure that I give my family quality things that they actually need and will enjoy. Because I'm a thoughtful daughter and sister. And I just really felt like my family got crapped on this year and missed the closeness and warmth that the holidays usually bring. Anyway I appreciate the comments and votes. I'm just still pretty hurt by how things have changed and don't really have anyone to confide in about it.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 12:24 PM on August 29, 2010

    i dont think he shouldv let her do the shopping. Your right she doesnt now you. If she dont her best then fine but your dad shouldv been there helping her saying oh well i think this they would like better or they like these kinds of things. Personally i dont care where my childrens gifts come from as long as its a thaughtful one, they can come from the dollar store, walmart, or toys r us we dont care. But we are lower middle class too and our children are still small(under 7) so theyr not wanting anything majorly expensive either right now.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 5:35 AM on December 29, 2010

    I THINK SHE CAN PROBABLY FEEL THAT YOU DON'T LIKE HER BECAUSE OF HER AGE. YOU SHOULD JUST ACCEPT THAT HE HAS SOMEONE TO BE WITH WHO LOVES HIM OR MAKES HIM HAPPY AT LEAST AND YOU SHOULD BE WARM AND LOVING TO HER AND MAYBE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES WILL CHANGE. I WOULD PROBABLY SEEM A LITTLE HOSTILE OR DISTANCED FROM YOU TOO IF I FELT THE VIBES YOUR PUTTING OFF TOWARDS HER JUST BECAUSE OF HER AGE. I AM SORRY YOU HAVE NO ONE TO CONFIDE IN. YOU SHOULD WATCH THE SECRET. IT MIGHT HELP TO FILL YOUR LIFE WITH LOVE AND GOOD ENERGY AND STOP WORRYING ABOUT ALL THESE LITTLE THINGS. AT LEAST YOUR DAD IS STILL ALIVE AND THERE FOR YOU TO CALL OR STOP BY AND SEE HIM....OH WHAT I WOULD GIVE TO SEE MY DAD OR EVEN HEAR HIS VOICE AGAIN. YOU ARE BLESSED. DON'T WORRY ABOUT FIGHTING OVER THINGS THAT DON'T MATTER. JUST BE GLAD YOU HAVE HIS LOVE NO MATTER WHO ELSE LOVES HIM.

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