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My friend is pregnant with her second child. Her family is not throwing her a baby shower because they said she already had a shower with the first baby and the baby she is expecting is another girl. So my question is: Should there be a baby shower e

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Submitted by at 9:00 PM on Jan. 8, 2010
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My friend is pregnant with her second child. Her family is not throwing her a baby shower because they said she already had a shower with the first baby and the baby she is expecting is another girl. So my question is: Should there be a baby shower e

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  • beckyboobo...
    Submitted by   at 3:33 PM on January 17, 2010

    yes, every pregnancy should be celebrated!!

  • ratchetlee
    Submitted by   at 9:43 AM on January 18, 2010

    I had 3 showers with my first (girl). I didn't have a shower with my 2nd (boy) or 3rd (girl). I didn't expect one. If no one is willing to throw her a shower, then I guess I would have to say no.

    If you want her to have one, then why not throw her a diaper/wipe shower. Every baby needs those, but she shouldn't "need" any of the other baby things that she received at the shower(s) of her first child.

    For me, I believe in a shower for the first child. Only any other child IF it has been more than 6 years since the previous.

  • gradysmom2...
    Submitted by   at 9:46 AM on January 18, 2010

    It's tacky to have a second shower...especially when everyone in your family agrees.

  • BarbiePoot...
    Submitted by   at 11:57 AM on January 18, 2010

    Maybe if it has been 10 years since her first child but otherwise I consider it distasteful.

  • jerslittle...
    Submitted by   at 2:25 PM on January 18, 2010

    how about you throw her a welcome party with maybe a lite luncheon or something when the baby gets there. Then there is still a celebration for mom and baby but then it isn't required for gifts unless someone wants to bring something. This is a nice way to have everyone meet baby and say their congrats without anyone feeling weird or that the mom is needy

  • ACsLady
    Submitted by   at 1:00 PM on February 6, 2010

    We throw a shower at church for every baby...most of the women have lots of kids. I don't see any problem with it. There are always needs with every baby. If one of the ladies specifically says they don't need anything, we still get together just to have fun and celebrate.

    I don't see anything wrong with it and really don't understand why it's so bad to have a shower for each child.

  • MommaSherm...
    Submitted by   at 3:33 PM on February 9, 2010

    Depends. I personally don't believe in it, I think it's selfish. I registered for everything to be gender-neutral so I could use it for multiple children. Not my fault if other people didn't do the same. I think if someone wants to get you a gift they will. And it's not that you are not celebrating the birth by not having a shower. You can do that in other ways. I only give gifts for the first child.

  • Lapis_Lazu...
    Submitted by   at 6:34 PM on February 14, 2010

    I would throw one, but not as big as a first--invite people, have games and food, and make it mostly about lovin on the mama, and less about gifts. =)

  • 1baby2
    Submitted by   at 10:12 PM on March 2, 2010

    My son is 15 months old, and I'm trying to get pregnant now. I told my my mom and sister this, and they are already planning the baby shower lol. I think every baby is different and deserves a shower. I live in Oregon and every person I know or everyone I have talked to that has children, has had a shower for each individual child. I've never heard of it any other way. I think it would be selfish not to have one. I say this because when your children are older and you are sharing memories with them, the other child might have hurt feelings as to why there wasn't one for them. I wouldn't want my child to feel less special.

  • 1baby2
    Submitted by   at 10:18 PM on March 2, 2010

    I also don't think it's selfish because, nobody has to buy a gift for my child if they don't want to. Also if they are against a second shower, then they can stay their asses home. The people who want to be there are excited and don't think it's selfish. So if everyone's excited, and happy, and want to shop for baby( which is true in my family) then there's no such thing as selfish .

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