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i am just curious as to what alot of other moms opinions on this are. i grew up with a close family member who was one of the 2 and know some of the heartaches that come along. alot of time i dont think its fair to him or his mother and wonder if faced with the choice and knowing what would you do? the world is a harsh place.

if you were pregnant and found out that your baby would have mental retardation or down syndrome would you get an abortion if it was early enough ?

  • no, i would keep no matter what

    60%
  • yes, if i knew then i would

    18%
  • never thought about it.

    13%
  • other, please explain

    8%
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Anonymous
Submitted by Anonymous at 1:56 PM on Jan. 14, 2010
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if you were pregnant and found out that your baby would have mental retardation or down syndrome would you get an abortion if it was early enough ?

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Anonymous
Submitted by Anonymous at 1:56 PM on Jan. 14, 2010
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  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 4:31 PM on January 14, 2010

    I wouldn't get an abortion, but to be honest, I would seriously consider putting the child up for adoption. There are agencies that specialize in handicapped kids.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 11:59 AM on January 17, 2010

    It's up to God to make that kind of decision. I would admire someone who put their handicapped up for adoption more than I would someone who just got an abortion. However, I think both are extremely selfish and immature.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 8:12 AM on January 18, 2010

    We live in a society that wants things that are perfect. It is sad. I can't beleive especially with a disablity someone would give away or even worse kill their child.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 11:56 PM on January 18, 2010

    I'm sorry for your family member who has been so unhappy. But theirs is just one experience. Life is what you make it. And looking to find "fairness" in life will just frustrate you. I was just thinking about this sort of situation and discussing it with my SO the other day. We won't be dealing with that sort of decision, since we can't have any more babies, but I was still curious if we were on the same page about it. A special needs child is still a child to love, to cherish, to marvel at. And if your child has Down's syndrome, a sweet, innocent, pure child to share your life with. Raising any child has heart-breaking moments. It is never easy bringing up children, they all have needs, whether they are labeled "special" needs or not. I would not have even considered an abortion if one of my children had those sort of challenges. What I would have had a hard decision over would have been if one of my children was diagnosed with an illness that they would have physically suffered with. Even then it would have been an agonizing decision. I would have had to look long and hard into other parents' experiences. I am very relieved that I never DID have to consider that. Politically, I'm pro-choice. I believe it should be personal decision for the family, since they are the ones who have to live with the consequences either way. But personally, morally, I'm pro-life. I just think there are VERY few situations when abortion is the best choice. But it just occured to me just now, that it all boils down to a matter of timing. Like, on one day it is a somewhat acceptable choice...to terminate a pregnancy. And depending on the circumstances, you may have some people who think you did something wrong, but you would definitely have other people who would support your decision. But then, on another day, just a few weeks or a month or so later, it is completely unacceptable to everyone to end that child's life. After they are born. I've heard a lot of different opinions on when "life" begins, and the reasons why people believe what they do as far as that question goes, and I don't know how I would argue that point, but that basic fact just hit me. It's all about timing. It doesn't matter at what point each person believes it's okay at, EVERYONE agrees that once the child is born, it's not okay to decide to end the child's life. Sorry-got waaaaay off-topic there, but like I said, it was on my mind, so I guess I hadda get it off my chest!














  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 2:02 AM on January 23, 2010

    I work with developmentally disabled kids and adults (in their group homes). Some are nightmares others I wish I could take home with me. One kid couldn't go home for Christmas b/c his grandparents were embarrassed and didn't want him around the rest of the family so he had Christmas w/my family. That said I would never put my child into one of those homes (I love my job but so many of my coworkers are in it for the money or b/c they like the control). There are plenty worse things than having a child w/a disability like being a parent who feels they're "sparing their child from a harsh world" when really they're sparing themselves by denying that child life.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 2:05 AM on January 23, 2010

    The world is harsh for everyone. Would you abort your child if you knew it'd be ugly, fat, black (or other minority), or just plain ol' stupid?

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 11:21 AM on January 29, 2010

    Yeah, be glad your mom didn't abort you when she found out you'd be retarded...

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 7:34 PM on January 29, 2010

    for all of those who had to throw you rude comments in never once did i say i would give my child up if i found out they would have a disablilty i made the poll because i was curious about the results. so please stop amusing things and just give your answers and opinions and do not judge me for a simple question that i was curious about.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 4:32 PM on February 1, 2010

    im not shur really what I'd do

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 10:41 PM on February 8, 2010

    I'm a teacher and I have had to work with mentally retarded children before. It drives me nuts. I cant handle it well. So yes I would abort the child because I would not be able to take care of it the way it needs and wouldnt want that life for a child of mine.

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