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I bought my son a boy baby doll for Christmas. He likes babies and this year in preschool he loves taking care of a doll baby and pushing it around in it's stroller, to the point of not wanting to let the other kids have turns. He is normally very good about sharing and taking turns. So I got him a boy baby doll. He really likes his "baby", Owen. My husband has a problem with his son taking the doll in public and feels that boys shouldn't have dolls or play with them and he will be picked on for it. My husband was pouty on the way to church and argumentative because the Sunday school teacher had wanted to have each child bring something he or she loved within a couple weeks so she could take a picture for a project. My son wanted to bring "Owen" the doll. This isn't even the first time in church that a boy has brought his baby doll in the last year. No one is going to humiliate a little boy for playing with doll babies when he is 4. If he were 8 or older and playing with them a

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Submitted by at 7:46 PM on Jan. 17, 2010
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Would you buy boy baby dolls for your 4 year old son if he enjoyed playing with baby dolls at preschool?

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  • c-rad
    Submitted by   at 5:52 PM on January 18, 2010

    My son has had a boy doll since before he was a yeaar. I wrote this as a blog:

    Jakey the doll is in hiding. He is hiding because I have a feeling my husband is not going to be thrilled to pieces that I bought our son a doll. BUT, if I wait until Conrad's birthday, and then have my grandmother give it to him as a present, there is no way Blake can take it away from Conrad. A present from his GREAT grandma? No, that's a sacred thing. And then great grandma will be the crazy boy doll giver- not me.

    So why get a little boy his own boy dolly? Having a doll teaches children compassion, sensitivity and responsibility. They can imitate our behaviors and rules back to their doll, helping them understand our point of view. Often a child's first experiences with sharing come from interactions they have with their dolls. Taking the dolls clothes on and off helps with their fine motor skills and talking to dolly helps build language. As the child becomes older, they will feel more comfortable holding and being around babies having had experience comforting and cradling a doll.

    So then why have these experiences been shunned from our male children? At one time in history, the child rearing was done mainly by the women and the hunting, gathering and building by the men. The little boys often played with toys that reflected this culture and imitated their fathers. Although imitating their father is still important, imitating and learning the mothers roles are increasingly as important. Although mothers remain the primary caregiver of children in most circumstances, more and more fathers are becoming involved in their children's lives and in some cases are the only parent.

    The male doll phobia has a lot of roots in mans inability to accept homosexuality, which often is the fear when it comes to a boy having a doll. The nurturing behavior dolls elicit is good for all children, and experts agree that a boy's masculinity is not in jeopardy by having a doll.

    In the end, your son wont be taking his doll to college with him and it will end up in the same place as all those naked butt pictures: in a storage bin packed high up in the attic. Or perhaps kept by his mother forever as a childhood souvenir.

  • JenniferZi...
    Submitted by   at 11:38 PM on January 18, 2010

    I don't see any problem with it. My hubby would probably react the same way. However my son hates dolls. It's funny how kids pick things up. When he has show and tell at preschool he refuses to touch a doll if one is passed around. I never thought him that.

  • PhilsBabyM...
    Submitted by   at 12:54 PM on January 21, 2010

    Check out this article: Real Boys Play with Dolls  You may want to share it with your husband. :)


    I don't see what the problem is with a boy playing with a doll.  Children want to emulate adults and aren't hung up about gender roles.  I know when my toddler was a baby, my husband changed diapers, rocked him to sleep, played with him, etc.  It's not like men don't take care of babies.  Why shouldn't little boys want to pretend to be daddies?

  • crazywith4
    Submitted by   at 11:47 AM on February 4, 2010

    I have no problem with my sons playing with dolls. My older one plays with them occasionally, mostly just as characters in some play-acting, but my younger son LOVES baby dolls. I would buy him one, but my daughter has more than enough to share and he has more or less adopted one as his own. He calls her Princess. I just remind anyone chauvanistic enough to say anything that he is practicing to be a good daddy. And he's the more rough-and-tumble of them, too!

  • freakxxsho...
    Submitted by   at 11:47 AM on April 30, 2010

    Society is changing, and boy need to have other rolls rather than "being the big man". Every boy is differnt, they aren't all the same. So kudos for you that you let your son do that! There is nothing wrong with it!

  • sheenagh
    Submitted by   at 7:24 PM on May 21, 2010

    I got my son a baby doll last year after he started pretending he had a reel baby. I mean all day every day for about 4 months every where we went he had to take his pretend baby. some one said that if he had a real doll he would stop with the pretend one (it worked) he still plays with the doll it is so cute . If how he is now with the doll is any indication of what kind of father he will be when he is grown, he will be a very good one.

  • KiraJenLov...
    Submitted by   at 10:32 PM on June 18, 2010

    Tell your husband he should watch this clip from the old 70's children's video "Free To Be, You and Me". It deals with this exact same subject. You can watch it here on YouTube:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3GZby1kDXY

  • SatyrsMom
    Submitted by   at 1:21 PM on September 23, 2010

    For me its like, dolls taught girls how to be mommies, well boys gotta learn to so whats the big deal? Its a doll not a bomb let kids be kids. My Husband bought him a doll.

  • Motherdrag...
    Submitted by   at 8:49 PM on October 24, 2010

    It is just as important as raising good mothers, if not more so, to raise good fathers. A baby doll is a fantasic toy for a child no mater what sex he or she may be.

  • ladyc76
    Submitted by   at 11:41 PM on November 23, 2010

    It is healthy. if dolls teach young girls to be mommy's then boy dols can teach boys how to be daddy's. I had no problem with my son playing with a doll when he was much smaller at 4 an 5 and now he is 15. It's ok. (=

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