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I've just recently started talking to an old friend of mine from high school. It started harmless enough, but then he started telling me how much he thought about me and how he imagined his life if he could be with me. I politely told him that I'm married and nothing is gonna happen- we can just be friends. He's a very exciting person in his work [he's already doing what I am going to school for] and personal activities; point being that he is fun to talk to. Now every so often he does make flirty comments to me but that's about it. It does get to me somewhat and what I'm wondering is if I should share this with my husband? I can't help but wonder is something missing in my marriage if I feel this way?

what should I do here?

  • tell your husband how you feel and work on things

    33%
  • say nothing, you've done nothing wrong but stop talking to the other guy

    50%
  • other

    16%
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Submitted by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Jan. 18, 2010
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Submitted by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Jan. 18, 2010
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  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 7:34 PM on January 21, 2010

    I don't know what your marriage is like, but if it is good then it is fine to feel the way you do. It is natural. We all like to feel wanted, but I understand how it can make you feel uncomfortable. I would stop talking to the guy for his sake though to help him move on.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 12:12 AM on February 24, 2010

    like the previous poster said, we all want to feel wanted, and you share simular interest. So it's understandable that you would enjoy his company. However spending time with him isn't healthy for him if he's still interested, or healthy for your marriage, if you start annalizing and compairing him to your husband.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 4:28 PM on March 1, 2010

    if you aren't 100% committed to your husband then he doesn't deserve you. Marriage is work and anything work having is worth working for.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 1:03 AM on March 3, 2010

    If you are hesitating to tell your husband, then that says something. Whether it means you don't trust him or you are hiding something...I don't know...but It's worth thinking about.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 12:42 AM on March 9, 2010

    both a and b

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 3:21 PM on March 30, 2010

    I would be completely honest with my husband. I tell my husband every time a man or woman says something to me. If it's a flirty comment or a man tries to add me online that's telling me I'm sexy or whatever. I share everything with my husband and he does with me. It makes everything better. Being honest and up front with everything makes a big difference because imagine how your husband would feel if he found out about you talking to this guy and him sending you all of those flirty comments. Don't you think he'd be a little hurt by you not telling him about it? He might even jump to conclusions and think you're developing feelings for this guy.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 3:22 PM on March 30, 2010

    And also, how would you feel if it was the other way around? Your husband talking to an old lady friend from high school and her saying those things to him. Wouldn't you want him to share that with you?

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 8:44 PM on March 31, 2010

    You got married for a reason. Don't go behind your husbands back and talk to other guys like that. You should stop talking to him, before you complelty wreck your marrage.

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 9:01 PM on July 1, 2010

    Submitted by Anonymous at 4:28 PM on March 1, 2010

    if you aren't 100% committed to your husband then he doesn't deserve you. Marriage is work and anything work having is worth working for.


    Don't you mean SHE doesn't deserve HIM?

  • Anonymous
    Submitted by Anonymous   at 1:57 PM on July 13, 2010

    DONT DONT DONT tell your husband. They can NOT deal with someone even flirting with their woman. they assume tat you would let it go further than that. however you know where your loyalty lies. After confiding in your husband he will assume that every male friend is trying to get more than friendship out of you.

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