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My Husband isn't the biological father of my daughter, but he has been with me since I was 3 months pregnant and is her Daddy. We are starting the process of a Step Parent adoption and one of the things that came up is whether to change her name. I gave her my Maiden name when she was born and we are talking about giving her his name after the adoption. So I'm just wondering what you guys think. :)

p.s. her biologocal father isn't and has never been in the picture.

Should we change my daughters name when my husband adopts her?

  • Yes - Samantha Erin Notter

    87%
  • No - Samantha Erin Jacobson

    12%
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Submitted by at 7:11 PM on Jan. 29, 2010
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Submitted by at 7:11 PM on Jan. 29, 2010
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  • musicmomma...
    Submitted by   at 7:13 PM on January 29, 2010

    We are leaning toward yes because me my husband and son all have the name Notter and we are ttc another little Notter. Thinking it would be better for her to have the same name.

  • asmcbride
    Submitted by   at 12:01 AM on January 30, 2010

    If he is adopting her, then yes, she should have his last name.

  • snowysakur...
    Submitted by   at 1:17 AM on January 30, 2010

    yes, since there is another child (with his name), and especially since you have his name. but maybe make her part of the decision? or is she too young?

  • musicmomma...
    Submitted by   at 3:02 AM on January 30, 2010

    she's only 3

  • Kylie819
    Submitted by   at 10:29 PM on January 30, 2010

    Yes. My daughter is 8 (has never seen her bio dad) and will be adopted by my DF after we get married in August. We will be changing her last name.

  • lilangel25...
    Submitted by   at 4:31 PM on February 2, 2010

    I would definitely do it. He's her father for all intents and purposes.

  • Mommalehya
    Submitted by   at 9:52 PM on February 2, 2010

    My Dad (not biological father but my 'Dad') didnt 'legally' adopt me and we still somehow managed to have my name changed to his (long before 911, now its not so easy). There was also two children he had (my brother and sister) but everyone else had the same last name but me. Im 27 now and have so much pride in my maiden name. From my own experience I believe you should get her name changed.

  • mrswillie
    Submitted by   at 4:46 PM on March 12, 2010

    if your husband is adopting, why wouldn't you? Typically children carry their legal father's last name. He Bio-father legally won't be related to her anymore.

  • Jewel.
    Submitted by   at 12:00 PM on March 19, 2010

    Yes. Take his name. If you accept him as your husband and your daughters father and protector with all legal rights and obligations toward her, then yes, definitely adopt his last name too. It will really show just what a true and united family you are.

  • new_mom808
    Submitted by   at 10:16 PM on May 22, 2010

    I think she should have the same last name as the rest of her family.

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