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Everything is a Phase

Posted by RainyDayGal on Nov. 22, 2012 at 12:00 AM

The past couple of weeks, my girls have been kicking my butt. My oldest (3 ½) has been asking question after question ("Why? But why? Yeah, but why?"), not even listening to my answer before she fires off the next question. Remember those ditzy girls in high school whom you knew were smart but acted dumb to get attention? She's acting like that. Books we've read a zillion times--ones she could recite--she suddenly "doesn't get." During my best moments I'm trying to figure out where on earth she's learned this awful act, and during my worst, I feel like she's merely calculating how far she can push me before I'll snap.

Meanwhile, my youngest (19 months) has decided that sleep is for...other people who are not her. She's been waking at night, not napping during the day, and acting like an over-caffeinated, grumpy baboon all the time. Anything that's dangerous to climb, she's there. A wall that hasn't yet been scribbled on? Don't worry. She's got a crayon stashed under mommy's radar for that express purpose. Eating? Nah. Not today. Which makes the grumpiness even worse. She's been biting her sister, hitting the dog, and basically been a royal terror.

Yesterday I actually looked up the moon calendar to see if it happened to be full; there has to be some cosmic explanation as to why my sweet girls have both suddenly turned into the evil stepsisters. The moon won't be full for another two weeks. They're not sick. So what could be going on?

The answer is that it's probably a phase: a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad phase. And they're both in this phase at once. They're two headstrong, opinionated little girls, and that will serve them well throughout their lives. But now? When they're little? It can be...challenging. All I can do is batten down the hatches, take it one day at a time, and try to come through with my patience intact. It might be easier said than done.

What's the hardest (worst, most annoying, terrible, no good, very bad) phase your kids have been through? How did you survive? 

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by kellynh on Nov. 24, 2012 at 8:35 PM

Four.... They reason why they just shouldn't do it!! (Shudder)

by Madelaine on Nov. 28, 2012 at 10:21 AM

Two to three and then teenage years.

by MamaBear2cubs on Nov. 28, 2012 at 10:46 AM

3 seems to have been the worst so far!

by GwenMB on Nov. 28, 2012 at 10:47 AM

My 4 yo seems to constantly being going through a difficult stage.  He is so incredibly stubborn & determined to get his way!  If he's not in the mood to cooperate, he won't (he often doesn't seem to be in the mood).  If he can't be first, he doesn't want to do it at all.

Thank goodness I found out the other day that saying "By the time I count to 3, you need to..." really works with him.  I say it & say "0" and he's off doing it & saying "I'm so fast, you couldn't even get past 0!"

by natesmom1228 on Nov. 28, 2012 at 11:48 AM

3 was the worst.